@tickleme Said
I broke up with my bf 3 months ago. I feel i had good reason to. He didnt treat me right - he has issues of his own. He is a drug addict and an alcoholic, as well as an angry, violent and abusive person - towards me he has only ever been verbally abusive.
Today marks 91 days of no contact with him. He broke NC after day 1 and he has been doing several drive bys past my place. Also around Day 60 he sent me a message making it look like it was intended for someone else which i didnt repsond to - he later messaged saying he was sorry it was intended for someone else. I am not so sure, i think it might've been him trying to open the lines of communication.
I miss him terribly and having a very hard time dealing with this break up and no contact.
Does anyone here think his indirect approach to trying to get in contact with me is a sign he to is hurting and wanting contact or perhaps to work things out?
It shouldn't matter to you if he is hurting right now, not to sound cold, but to put it bluntly.
He was abusive to you, and what should matter, is that 'you' are not hurting.
Time will heal him, - and help you as well..
don't let feelings of guilt, or a soft heart make you do something you will regret.
Maybe he will take this as a learning experience, and use it as a reason to get his act together.
Don't go back there, please.