Girls: The raw, real God's honest truth about teenage pregnancy.

@Kristy69 Said

Doesn't sound stupid at all. I actually really like that idea.

@Tar Said

Glad you do. Just take your time cuz a good set of vows does take a while

@Kristy69 Said

I'm gonna try my damnedest, that's for sure.
My childhood was very rough. Substance abuse, domestic abuse, I was neglected, I bounced around from home to home... and my birth mother was 19 and my dad was 22. My birth mother didn't stick around though, she let my father and (step)mom have me.

One thing is for certain, I'm gonna push this kid. Hard.

@Hot_Rod Said

"One thing is for certain, I'm gonna push this kid. Hard."

This phrase worries me. It is almost menacing.

I know you are referring to pregnancy, but this whole post has overtones of "Here endeth the first lesson - now all stand for the hymn 'She Who Would Abstinent Be' ".

I don't think you have adequate perspective to preach on this issue - as another poster pointed out already, by no means all young mothers experience anything like the problems you promote as being almost inevitable, with a heavy dose of fear-laden angst. That is not helpful to give a common sense view to young girls.

Go easy on your own kid - or you will make their life a living hell under the auspices of a deranged control freak.

@restoreone Said

Always have time the most valuable of commodities

@Kristy69 Said

This is what I got so far. I'm even thinking of putting it on a plaque or something:

10 Promises

I promise to always love you.
Even when we fight, no matter where you are or what you’ve done,
you will never be without my love.

I promise to put you before anything else in my life.
You come first, no matter what.

I promise to create a peaceful home.
You deserve to feel safe and secure.

I promise to listen closely and without judgment.
Nothing you will do or say will change how I feel about you.

I promise to allow you the freedom to fail, I will forgive your
mistakes, and apologize when I am wrong.

I promise to remember that you have your own valid feelings, opinions and inner guidance.

I promise to teach you morals and values, as well as let you develop your own view points.

I promise to show you the value of hard work and the rewards that come along with it.

I promise to set firm boundaries and hold you accountable for your actions, but allow you the room to make your own mistakes and learn your own lessons.

I promise to hug, kiss, hold, praise and play with you.
You mean more to me than anything, you deserve to see that.

@Kristy69 Said



I don't mean it as scary as I made it sound.
I didn't really have that extra push in my life. Not to go for extra-curricular activities or anything.
I'd start a hobby (soccer, violin, guitar) and I'd get bored because it was too hard and I'd just quit. No one ever said:
"No, you're gonna go through with this. You started it, you gotta follow through"

It made me lazy. You know?

@xLETHAL_VIXENx Said

Pushing a child to do what YOU want is awful.

@Tar Said

Ya gotta potty train them sometime!