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stumblinthrulife On April 16, 2008

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Lake Saint Louis, Missouri
#1New Post! Dec 08, 2005 @ 07:03:02
I've noticed that at least once a week someone posts "why do you all hate me?", "why does no one respond to my posts?", or some such other plaintive cry.

No one hates you. No one is delibrately ignoring you. Everyone on here is lovely, and you'll have a hard time pissing anyone off. Except Intox.

Not all threads are successful. You aren't going to get the next 15,000 reply post on your first day on the forum. Hell, there's only been one of those to date as far as I know.

Some threads may not get any replies. Frankly, that particular post just didn't pique any interest, or no one else had an opinion. Hell, I've posted a few threads and had no replies, and I like to think of myself as reasonably popular on the site. Don't take it personally.

Do you post on other people's threads? Or are you just making your own? You'll find that if you post on other threads a lot people will get to know you, and they are then more likely to look at your threads. If I see a thread entitled "cheese is great" by someone I don't know, I doubt I'll open it as it sounds dull. Could be a nobel prize worthy discourse on how cheese making could bring peace to our time, but since you've not established credibility yet I'll skip it, sorry.

Now if Peanut or Reiko or Shaggyjebus or any number of other folks posted the same thread title, I'll likely pop in to see what's gone wrong with their head. Why? Is it because I like them more than you? Is it because I hate you? No. It's because I've encountered them in other threads, or they've posted in my threads, and shown themselves to be interesting people, so I keep an eye out for them. Oh, and Peanut is my wife, so she'll always have the advantage there.

Why don't people PM you? Let's think - why don't you show up on my doorstop with a bottle of wine? Because you don't know me. Post in some threads, get a feel for the people who hold similar views, or interestingly different ones, and send out some friend requests. Chat to the people in threads some more, leave a nice friend comment. Soon they will be posting in your threads and leaving you friend comments. If you want to chat, drop them a PM. They'll probably reply. If you expect someone else to do all the legwork in forming a friendship, you'll be a little dissappointed, both on forums and in real life.


So, in summary:

If you want people to talk to you -

1. Start by posting in other people's threads. I can't stress this one enough. If you skip this step you'd better be a damned interesting person with a knack for catchy thread headings
2. Send friend requests - don't just wait for them
3. Leave nice messages on people's profiles
4. Send a couple of PMs. PMs breed replies
redglitter On July 23, 2007




a small rivertown in Arizona,
#2New Post! Dec 08, 2005 @ 07:18:25
Good post, Stumblinthrulife!
kinglegend On May 06, 2007




Brisbane, Australia
#3New Post! Dec 08, 2005 @ 07:29:41
^^^what he said
Lili On July 05, 2018
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Sunshine Land,
#4New Post! Dec 08, 2005 @ 08:20:02
this looks like a thread that will end up in "favorites", or FAQ. Good job!
dizzy On April 22, 2008




God knows??, United Kingdom
#5New Post! Dec 08, 2005 @ 09:15:31
^^^ yep im with you^^^


If you dont like me - go find 30p and ring someone who gives a F**k! like i care!! lol












Plz Dont dislike me!
glitter_sniffer On August 25, 2015
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Glasgow, United Kingdom
#6New Post! Dec 08, 2005 @ 09:57:15
Amen Brotha'.
hoops On December 11, 2005




, United Kingdom
#7New Post! Dec 08, 2005 @ 10:49:40
As i'm new i'd better take stumblinthrulife's advice
tracyann38uk On July 02, 2006

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Middlesex, United Kingdom
#8New Post! Dec 08, 2005 @ 11:53:40
yes i feel some people dont like me as they dont talk in my thread , i say hi they dont answer back ect, thats why i did a thead do people have there favorites on here, because i feel you have to fit in with certain people, Thank god i have alot of friends on here who i now also chat to on msn, I chat to everyone i can i also fill in all the threads, maybe one day everyone will get on
tracyann38uk On July 02, 2006

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Middlesex, United Kingdom
#9New Post! Dec 08, 2005 @ 11:54:22
@tracyann38uk Said
yes i feel some people dont like me as they dont talk in my thread , i say hi they dont answer back ect, thats why i did a thead do people have there favorites on here, because i feel you have to fit in with certain people, Thank god i have alot of friends on here who i now also chat to on msn, I chat to everyone i can i also fill in all the threads, maybe one day everyone will get on


wow all that and no points ???? there you go
glitter_sniffer On August 25, 2015
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Glasgow, United Kingdom
#10New Post! Dec 08, 2005 @ 11:55:39
@tracyann38uk Said
wow all that and no points ???? there you do


TFS must be having a funny turn! Sometimes he goes a little mad *Pats TFS on the head* Bless 'im
fallenangel On September 11, 2008




Talkin 2 mat on the phone, Uni
#11New Post! Dec 08, 2005 @ 11:57:03
I love you tracy and I will always talk to you
sean_de_foot_longe On May 02, 2016




I'm behind you!!, United Kingd
#12New Post! Dec 08, 2005 @ 12:01:12
@tracyann38uk Said
yes i feel some people dont like me as they dont talk in my thread , i say hi they dont answer back ect, thats why i did a thead do people have there favorites on here, because i feel you have to fit in with certain people, Thank god i have alot of friends on here who i now also chat to on msn, I chat to everyone i can i also fill in all the threads, maybe one day everyone will get on


My opinions tottally differnt from yours! if someone doesn't get on with me or vice-a-versa, I just think f*** 'em loads more peope to speak to! I'm not going out my way to try and make friends with some one who, isn't taking the time to speak to me!
tracyann38uk On July 02, 2006

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Middlesex, United Kingdom
#13New Post! Dec 08, 2005 @ 12:05:01
@sean_de_foot_longe Said
My opinions tottally differnt from yours! if someone doesn't get on with me or vice-a-versa, I just think f*** 'em loads more peope to speak to! I'm not going out my way to try and make friends with some one who, isn't taking the time to speak to me!


yes i think thats great idea that sean i will start doing that to
sean_de_foot_longe On May 02, 2016




I'm behind you!!, United Kingd
#14New Post! Dec 08, 2005 @ 12:06:17
Thanks!
misunderstood On June 24, 2014
Persuasive Madam!





How about you come find me....
#15New Post! Dec 08, 2005 @ 12:12:55
w00t to that post! Give that man a cookie!
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