For the last few months, my friend has been watching my daughter a couple days a week. Last week, when I came to pick her up, madeleine was all upset, and babbling and crying, and so my friend explained to me that Madeleine had thrown a small rock at the TV, so she smacked her hand lightly to "shock" her, not to hurt her. Madeleine was acting weird around her for a few days after that. So I told my friend that I don't want her to hit her for any reason because all it does is teach her to hit people if she doesn't like what they're doing. So my friend agreed not to do that again. Then today I went to drop Madeleine off, and she has her son watching Indiana Jones, he's only 4. So Madeleine immediately sits down next to him and starts watching it too. At that point, the characters were shooting each other, fist fighting, people were dying, it wasn't pretty. My daughter is only 2. So I asked my friend if she could change the movie. She went over to the TV, turned it off, and said, "No more movie, I guess you guys will just have to be bored now!" I said, "I don't mean to be a party pooper, but I just don't think it was appropriate for her age." She got all defensive, saying, "It's only PG13". I said, "It's a war movie, she's only 2!" And she said, "Well, my kids have been watching those kinds of movies since they were her age, and she's probably already seen it a few times since she's been with me anyway." Her youngest, who is 4, is obsessed with fighting. All he ever talks about it shooting bad guys, fighting, killing, etc. To an extent, boys will be boys, but 95% of what he says is about that, and I think I know why now.
So I want to take her out of my friend's house, and I found a daycare that I really like, so now the tricky part is how to tell my friend that I don't want her watching my daughter anymore? I don't want to burn bridges, but she probably will be upset and offended. How should I do this?