@catiebuggg Said
I think it's beautiful. I don't necessarily believe in it. It's really hard to grasp how that will work out? I couldn't imagine having 2 fathers instead of a mother and a father. But who's to say it won't work? It's no one else's business what Elton John does so long as that child is taken care of and not abused or neglected. He should be able to live his life the way he wants. It's obviously going to cause problems and there will be an uproar. That's inevitable, but for me? Congratulations to him and his partner.
Thank you for your comments, Catie and in a nutshell you have encapsulated some of the things which the homosexual community would like to see die out.
Firstly, it is good to see that you think of the event as a "beautiful" thing. Thank you for that comment because yes... it is beautiful. The birth of any child is beautiful.
But you then say you don't necessarily believe in it, and I'd question that. Why don't you believe in it..? Where is the problem..? I don't think you are being anti-homosexual but rather, I think your comment arises from the probability that gay men becoming parents goes against what you have been taught since you were young.
Would I be right in assuming you were brought up to believe in the nuclear family... Mummy, daddy, baby. Because this concept is so ingrained in our thinking, then anything that is outside of this is difficult to grasp.
But this is the kind of thinking that needs to be adjusted. Not changed, but simply adjusted to understand that the goalposts have moved. Just a little. The notion that two people of the same gender raising children is somehow strange is the line of thought that needs to be challenged.
As regards your other point, that the child himself may feel uncomfortable with himself, well, that is down to the heterosexual community, isn't it..?
If the boy is brought up in a happy, loving household he will grow up feeling completely at ease with his circumstances. The only time he will ever feel uncomfortable is if somebody starts to tell him his fathers are "queer".... or that he is "unnatural". And who is going to do that..? Not the homosexual community, that's for sure.
The only people who may make him feel uncomfortable will be those heterosexuals who cannot or will not accept him for who he is, and will only see the circumstances of his conception, birth and parental situation.
This is where the challenge lies, Catie.... educating the heterosexual community to simply accept the person for who he is and saying that the circumstances that brought him into the world don't really matter.
He may grow into a wonderful human being, capable of doing amazing things.... He may become a husband himself one day and father his own children.... Doesn't he deserve that chance without the malicious and narrow minded doing their best to de-rail his life before it even starts.?
It's not only Elton John who is in this situation. I can only speak for my own country, and in the UK there are an increasing number of births to same-sex couples. I foresee that within a generation every classroom in the country could have at least one child growing up in a same-sex family. At this time, these children are still infants and are not yet exposed to the bearpit of the school playground. We need to challenge the thinking of those hetero adults who would instill antisocial, homophobic behaviour into their kids before it gets to that point.
If heterosexual parents really...... REALLY.... care about the well being of their children, don't they owe it to them to teach them tolerance, kindness, understanding and acceptance..? Do you want your children to be good young people..? Or do you want them to grow up filled with hate, fear, violence and bigotry...?
It's your call.
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