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kaydoh On December 19, 2011




nottingham, United Kingdom
#1New Post! Aug 15, 2009 @ 17:37:28
I'm really getting concerned about a friend of mine. She's 28 and could always be described as kind of 'needy' and a bit of a drama queen but lately she's just getting worse and worse.

She is a bit 'easy' when it comes to guys but I don't think she is a slut or anything, I think she just wants to be loved. Trouble is she meets someone nice and scares them off with her paranoia about them cheating, she will tell them she loves them after a week and stuff like that.

She exaggerates health problems beyond belief both her own and her child's, to the point it's getting seriously worrying. Admittedly her family are not the most supportive, but they get mad at her and argue with her all the time and that just makes the situation worse.

I really think she should get some sort of medical check, but I wouldn't know where to start talking to her about it.
Mysteria On May 19, 2014
I Am Rogue!





A Small Town, Texas
#2New Post! Aug 15, 2009 @ 17:43:20
I'm hoping I can help. I think she may have Borderline Personality Disorder.

There's lots of information here that you can research so you'll know how to talk to her.

https://www.webmd.com/mental-health/tc/borderline-personality-disorder-symptoms
Krakatoa On November 25, 2009




1 hr from montreal, Canada
#3New Post! Aug 15, 2009 @ 17:47:07
Probably she should look at someone to talk to as a psychologist, for exemple, therapist, then she can learn how to cope with that, in reality i think that generally the girls and women that are more easy are really only in need of love like you said, more then anything else, That would be a start for her, but she really need her family and friends to encourage her to consult, so that she knows, she is not crazy or anything, and that she is not alone, just that she is looking for someone some place that with time will make her feel better, and more secure in everything, Chantale.
kaydoh On December 19, 2011




nottingham, United Kingdom
#4New Post! Aug 15, 2009 @ 17:47:21
@Mysteria Said

I'm hoping I can help. I think she may have Borderline Personality Disorder.

There's lots of information here that you can research so you'll know how to talk to her.

https://www.webmd.com/mental-health/tc/borderline-personality-disorder-symptoms



You could use almost all of those to descibe my friend, she is all of those with the excpetion of being suicidal. At least she has never vocalised any desire to hurt herself in any way.
Mysteria On May 19, 2014
I Am Rogue!





A Small Town, Texas
#5New Post! Aug 15, 2009 @ 17:48:52
Does she seem to have a dysfunctional family? I do and it's been suggested that I might have that disorder. A negative environment usually causes it rather than it actually being a mental illness.
rashell16 On August 04, 2010




City of the Dead, Palau
#6New Post! Aug 15, 2009 @ 17:50:33
maybe you should call a therapist and talk to them about getting a psych consult. and leave their card somewhere where she'll find it.

or just joke about it lightly, or not be serious when your saying it...do you know what i mean? like if she's complainin about bein lonely say "Well thats what you get for thinkin everyones cheatin on ya!" but in a joking way....

kaydoh On December 19, 2011




nottingham, United Kingdom
#7New Post! Aug 15, 2009 @ 17:51:55
@Mysteria Said

Does she seem to have a dysfunctional family? I do and it's been suggested that I might have that disorder. A negative environment usually causes it rather than it actually being a mental illness.



Yeah she does a bit. She doesn't live with them though. Her mum is a piece of work. My friend is the eldest of 6, and she is always being put down by her mother. There is rather blatant favouritism going on.
kaydoh On December 19, 2011




nottingham, United Kingdom
#8New Post! Aug 15, 2009 @ 17:53:57
@rashell16 Said

maybe you should call a therapist and talk to them about getting a psych consult. and leave their card somewhere where she'll find it.

or just joke about it lightly, or not be serious when your saying it...do you know what i mean? like if she's complainin about bein lonely say "Well thats what you get for thinkin everyones cheatin on ya!" but in a joking way....




I don't know if I could do that. Here in the UK it's a bit different. she would need to get a referal to a shrink via her GP. Unless she went private and there's no way she or I for that matter could afford it.
Mysteria On May 19, 2014
I Am Rogue!





A Small Town, Texas
#9New Post! Aug 15, 2009 @ 17:56:54
@kaydoh Said

Yeah she does a bit. She doesn't live with them though. Her mum is a piece of work. My friend is the eldest of 6, and she is always being put down by her mother. There is rather blatant favouritism going on.



That sounds exactly like my situation except I'm quite a bit older and don't live at home. Both my parents are very critical. They say they understand that my depression is major, but they call me lazy, complain about my house, my dogs, the way I deal with my son, and more. I've recently been told by my dad that he truly loves me. He's yelled at me all my life and it just makes my self-esteem worse. I've also done the gambling, drinking, and haven't used good judgment regarding men. I also have lots of physical problems. My brothers are the complete opposite of me. I'm the oldest and always seem to be the one they're unhappy with.
TrainerLisa On August 22, 2009




Half Moon Bay, California
#10New Post! Aug 22, 2009 @ 06:22:29
In all these cases one route may be talking to a therapists. The other is trying to change lifestyle, I don't mean change it to suit others but just change it.
Even if a person goes to a therapist just understanding that a certain change is required is not enough. Actual change has to be brought about.
It can start with something as little as tending a potted plant, growing a bean in cotton for the kid or anything else.
If the family is very negative try and stay away or minimize contact for some time.
Change life by bringing about small changes on a daily basis, if you miss out one day, no problems,don't fret, tomorrow always comes.
ReAdSaLoT On September 23, 2019




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#11New Post! Aug 22, 2009 @ 06:34:52
I'm a psychologist and I'll explain a diagnosis if given one online, but it would be unethical for me to even guess what the root of her problem is. It could be physical or mental. Depending on her age it could be the beginnings of something very serious. I won't even guess there a too many possibilities. She needs to have a complete medical checkup and the a psychological checkup. Guessing what's wrong, or comparing her symptoms to another person will not help. Please see if she'll get to a doctor. We work on a sliding scale in the states. I know you medical setup is much different, but she can find competent even excellent help.
GoodWitchBeth On February 20, 2010




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#12New Post! Aug 25, 2009 @ 06:36:13
The best thing you can do is be her friend. Attempting to diagnose her is not your job, nor are you in a position to be able to do so accurately, as you are not a doctor or a psychologist or psychiatrist. Even with profesionals examinations and diagnosis are tricky and any patients have been treated for the wrong mental disorders for years while more symptoms develop and the true disease is uncovered.
My advise to you is to be her friend, be supportive and kind. When she is having a rough time, gently suggest that counseling may be a help to her. Be comforting and reassuring, but never pushy. Whatever her diagnosis, she will need support, and if she is mentally ill, will most likely need medication and therapy. It is very hard to even admit to needing help, or being mentally ill, and to accept treatment and stick with it is the biggest hurdle of all.
Be there for her, and she will appreciate it.
Beth
davejey On March 07, 2018




Wellington, New Zealand
#13New Post! Sep 10, 2009 @ 21:41:09
Kaydoh, take your friend for long walks in the fresh air,in nice natural surroundings, if possible. This will be good physically and mentally and it would be a more conducive environment to breach the subject of mental health. Maybe a good idea to start with something like 'This is good for my mental health'and take it from there.
(I am not a medical practioner, but have worked for a number of years in mental hospitals, as an aid to psychiatrists and psychologists.)
Regards Davejey
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