@tantan Said
Genetics doesn't make someone an a*****e though, I think that as to do with the learned behavior portion, lol. I know that I am the complete opposite of my mother, like down to the T. It's like she prides her self on a lie or something. Anywho, is it how one executes those learned traits that makes them similar to their parents?
Actually, genetics CAN make someone an arsehole, easily and often.
It's not their fault if they're born hyper, or aggressive, or violent, or many other things that can be affected by our brain chemistry.
BUT nurture has a lot to do with it too, more, I suspect.
My own father was a sociopathic bastard, so I set out to be a good Dad, and my kids tell me I did OK, they're adults now and not only still talking to me, they give every sign of actually loving this grumpy old dingo, lol.
However, I used my wits, and hid nothing from them, they grew up watching me smoke Ganja and drink and smoke ciggies, and we always discussed all of that, from the earliest days.
They none of them smoke or drink anything now, lol.
I didn't try to teach them not to, I didn't lecture or set rules, I just got them to nag me about it, to try to "help" ME, lol, and they loved doing it, they got to tell me off in front of their friends and adults, and to feel they had a strong role in the family.
It was sneaky, manipulative, yes, lol, and it worked, they developed healthy attitudes and habits without even noticing they were learning them!
Remember that if you ever have your own, it takes THOUGHT to raise a kid, no-one knows how to by instinct, we ain't built that way.
Also remember that kids will learn by example BEFORE anything else, so you have to make a real effort to live up to the standards that you want them to learn, or get real sneaky, lol.
The most important thing to recall about your children is that they will be independent adults all too soon, and you will one day have to answer to THEM for your parenting.