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Cpat92 On December 12, 2018
Why So Serious??





Lauderhill, Florida
#1New Post! Jan 12, 2017 @ 03:20:08
Do people change? If so, does it affect relationships(with significant others,friends, family)? In what way would it affect those relationships? My curiosity has been increasing greatly in the past few days. One thing I noticed is that, my relationship with my best friend is starting to drift apart. We've been friends going on 8 years now. My time in the Marine Corps and being on my own has led to me changing greatly. My best friend noticed that I have a "darker" personality now. She can handle it, but there are times I can go so dark that makes her worried. I used to isolate myself out of fear of rejection and stuff like that. Now, I enjoy being isolated. One major change (if it's considered a change) is when I decided to smoke. I used to smoke cigarettes for 2 years and I quit months after deployment. I now smoke weed. I have personal reasons of why I do it and none of it is for any social statuses or acceptance.

My best friend recently found out I smoke and she doesn't like it. She hasn't told me she doesn't accept it and I'm wrong and stuff, but I know she disapproves. Since I moved back to Florida, we talk way less than when I was stationed in Camp Pendleton. I feel like we are truly drifting apart. Ironically, it doesn't bother me. Overall I am still the same person, just altered somewhat.

So instead of rambling, I will ask again Do people change?
DiscordTiger On about 5 hours ago
The Queen of Random

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#2New Post! Jan 12, 2017 @ 05:04:43
Yes we all change. Some times it seems like big changes, especially in the 20-25 age range. People adjust to adulthood. Sometimes we leave old friends behind and make new ones.

There's a blink-182 song... what's my age again. The line is no one likes you when you're 23. Mostly, I refer to that in my theory. As in the first thing I thought to your question was, he's about 23 right?

You'll be different to old friends, and hitting that awkwardness of finding new adult friends. School is good for socialization, in that you have a lot of time in the day to develop bonds and yet you're developing bonds because of proximity not so much out of compatibility.

That's not saying you can't keep friends through that age, just that you both have to adjust to each other. If true compatibility is there it can work out, but it will take work and effort to do.

You're friend is also changing in her way.

I have friends that was super close to in high school that I barely recognize their personality on Facebook. We drifted apart, but not a fight so just diminished level of friendship. Another girl I met my freshman year of college and she is like the sister I never had. I called her for help this summer and she was on a plane like nothing. And I'm willing to help her in a moments notice too.

(ETA: and yet I was super hurt for a while over something she said without thinking it was a big deal, we got through it but like I said it was work. And once I got over it, what happened was not a deal breaker. )


That just one example all friendships are unique. It's hard for me to even say who would be a best friend any more, my closest friends are all different in how we relate and proximity that it's not a fair choice.
Friendship changes through time, even if you don't drift apart. It can get stronger.

I think I rambled. Lol
adrinachrome On October 23, 2018




Fukitall, Arizona
#3New Post! Jan 12, 2017 @ 13:20:35
Life just changes you man. You do things, things happen to you, your perceptions change. When the way you look at things change then your reaction to things change.

Change is not always good but being stagnate and never changing is bad as far as I'm concerned.
floydgirrl On April 18, 2018
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Pope's Wine Celler, Holy See (
#4New Post! Jan 12, 2017 @ 15:01:25
Yep, we all change. But don't think you can change someone else. you can only change yourself.

I have really good friends with that I've drifted apart from. Part of it is time, different paths in life has led us in different directions.

I'm still really good friends with one of my best friends in high school. The third in the trio has drifted off. We all lead different lives now. The one I'm still friends with, I don't really agree with her on somethings but just let it go as she does with me.

We make all get new jobs, make new friends, find new hobbies (in your case weed), learn new things. Get in relationships, end relationships. Whatever the case may be.
twilitezone911 On December 03, 2018




Saint Louis, Missouri
#5New Post! Jan 13, 2017 @ 00:03:54
in school, when we are kids, that we don't seem to worry about what color a kid. at least, i was a if they were white, or black. we are color blind, the other kid is just a another kid, your eyes. we just played with kids.

many ways, that is the first time, you know that kids are the same, don't change. if a teenager, you really don't see the " color blind ". you are white and your best friends are an asian and an black. you see nothing more than best friends in them.

in our late teens and early 20's, we see that people, in a different light. because we are enter the real world, become we become adults. between a child and adult, we never notice there is a change, but we are young to notice.

so, when we get to adulthood, the society tell you that people are different than you in many ways. you learn prejudice in may forms not always racial preference.

with mature that help to better person, you tolerance these prejudices.

what the most you will notice in " people change " in relationships in many forms.

human grows is why people change.
mrmhead On about 7 hours ago




NE, Ohio
#6New Post! Jan 13, 2017 @ 00:22:07
@adrinachrome Said

Life just changes you man. You do things, things happen to you, your perceptions change. When the way you look at things change then your reaction to things change.

Change is not always good but being stagnate and never changing is bad as far as I'm concerned.


Another way I've heard that:

If you're not changing, you're not improving.
earz On March 12, 2017




ask me, United Kingdom
#7New Post! Jan 17, 2017 @ 19:14:09
Yes, I changed a lot between my early twenties and now. People change constantly throughout their lives, in small ways but also the big stuff.

It needs to be natural and their own will though, TRYING to change someone often will not yield the results expected.
Jennifer1984 On about 9 hours ago
Remoaner and proud





Penzance, United Kingdom
#8New Post! Jan 17, 2017 @ 19:50:49
Life changes everybody. We all make important life decisions at some point and these can bring out profound differences to all aspects of our lives.

I came out shortly after my 19th birthday. I'd known I was gay since I was 14. It took four and a half years to take the big step, but I did it in the end and at that point a massive shift in my life took place. Nothing could be the same after that. Once you're out, there is no going back in the closet.

Having my baby was another huge, life-altering experience. Not just for the 1001 difficulties involved in finding a sperm donor, conceiving by IVF and going through pregnancy and childbirth etc, etc, etc.... but all the other aspects too, not least being grateful that I've married a woman who is prepared to be a parent to a child with which she has no biological connection. It's been a huge commitment for her and if I believed in God, I'd give thanks for having been given her to share my life every day.

But with all the things that face you in life, you have to step up to the plate, don't you? You take each challenge as it arises, deal with the problems one at a time and work them out. You can't possibly do those things and remain the same person. Well, I don't think you can, at any rate.

The two things listed above have been the major life altering events for me so far and I'm glad I've done them both. If they've changed me as a person, then it's been for the better.

I still have my beliefs and principles. Those won't change. But perhaps the firebrand student with strong convictions.... and was prepared to back them up "at the barricades" has now matured into a responsible wife and mum who still cares, but perhaps wouldn't be prepared to stick her placard in the face of a copper with a riot baton to make her point any more.

Yeah. We change.
Daninad07 On January 23, 2017




Belmont, North Carolina
#9New Post! Jan 22, 2017 @ 07:14:03
@Cpat92 Said

Do people change? If so, does it affect relationships(with significant others,friends, family)? In what way would it affect those relationships? My curiosity has been increasing greatly in the past few days. One thing I noticed is that, my relationship with my best friend is starting to drift apart. We've been friends going on 8 years now. My time in the Marine Corps and being on my own has led to me changing greatly. My best friend noticed that I have a "darker" personality now. She can handle it, but there are times I can go so dark that makes her worried. I used to isolate myself out of fear of rejection and stuff like that. Now, I enjoy being isolated. One major change (if it's considered a change) is when I decided to smoke. I used to smoke cigarettes for 2 years and I quit months after deployment. I now smoke weed. I have personal reasons of why I do it and none of it is for any social statuses or acceptance.

My best friend recently found out I smoke and she doesn't like it. She hasn't told me she doesn't accept it and I'm wrong and stuff, but I know she disapproves. Since I moved back to Florida, we talk way less than when I was stationed in Camp Pendleton. I feel like we are truly drifting apart. Ironically, it doesn't bother me. Overall I am still the same person, just altered somewhat.

So instead of rambling, I will ask again Do people change?



I think a person can adapt to change, and a person learns as they go. Sounds like you're alright with moving forward in your direction and maybe the two of you both don't care to ruin the friendship so most likely ya'll will reconnect.My fiend and I disconnected our friendship but not a daily thing meaning we kept in touch and went to a couple concerts and her husband died and she had moved 3 states away over 20 years ago and our last outing ended it. I was appalled cause she not only was drinking but she changed shirts in the parking lot and would not let her daughter be smart and safe as a teen learning to stand her ground.what was new for she and I was, I had classes online and close to finishing she began classes at her nearby community college.By that night out she had graduated a science degree. My community didn't care for online education and I didn't receive the links or websites and didn't meet anyone in the biz so mine didn't prosper all to well. Well, she bucked up on the outing with the same calling to be the person all the riders needed when we were teenagers but presently over forty. She was always the sober one but was the complete opposite on our last outing.I felt equal with her educationally although she had many work experience in accounting, my study was hardly that level, and seems it went to her head, so so smart and the bad part about it is she was a perfect match for all the organizational front runner professions I have had to encounter many times in various ways such as looking for a job, community needs, information.She just didn't make any sense at all in her attitude and degrading theory. and its a shame we all trusted her enough and just her attitude to want to be wreckless. in a company rented car to beat all.
Beauty On March 27, 2017




, Florida
#10New Post! Mar 26, 2017 @ 03:06:25
We are always changing, every moment. Your past friends do not enjoy the same hobbies you enjoy now. This is totally normal. I recently dropped my child hood friends as well and it is really weird, but not having common things with old friends is normal. My bf has even changed allot since using quantum xmetics. He looked very different without hair haha. But you see changing is really the joy of life. It would be very boring if things didn't change. You can say you are now making a big change and for that its great. Just make sure you are happy and focus on find some friends that you enjoy doing things together. But you should still be friends with your old friends, you just won't be best friends any more thats all.

Love,
Beauty
Komentenmelodie On May 25, 2018




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#11New Post! Feb 15, 2018 @ 02:45:13
many will change especially if put into certain situations or get ptsd etc. The strength of a relationship can make you change for the better or otherwise. I have travelled fairly widely & my thoughts are that seeing what I have seen/experienced has moulded me into what I am today, & that's not how I was. many that I have spoken to do not understand this & there is nothing that can be done about that because they have not seen or experienced what I have.
Erimitus On about 1 hour ago




The mind of God, Antarctica
#12New Post! Feb 16, 2018 @ 15:45:31
Do people change?

E: Yes

Does [change] affect relationships (with significant others, friends, family)?

E: I do not understand what affect means in this context. If we ask does change influence relationships I would say yes. Being able to change affects in response to changes in others affects might be a definition of sanity.

In what way would [change] affect those relationships?

E: That would depend on the change. If I understand correctly relationships are dynamic (i.e., constant change)


One thing I noticed is that, my relationship with my best friend is starting to drift apart. We've been friends going on 8 years now. My time in the Marine Corps and being on my own has led to me changing greatly. My best friend noticed that I have a "darker" personality now. She can handle it, but there are times I can go so dark that makes her worried. I used to isolate myself out of fear of rejection and stuff like that. Now, I enjoy being isolated.

E: I too am an introvert. Generally I find protracted social interaction unpleasant.
The extroverts are babbling away playing their social games (kind of like little dogs humping each others legs) while I am at the edge of the herd looking at what seems to me to be absurd. I suppose these people would be considered normal. I do not trust normal people. Nope, not at all….

E: I believe that a balance between dark and light is the best approach for me. Manic depressives do this to an extreme. I believe that a standard deviation either way is the best approach for me. But we are talking about you not me.

One major change (if it's considered a change) is when I decided to smoke. I used to smoke cigarettes for 2 years and I quit months after deployment. I now smoke weed. I have personal reasons of why I do it and none of it is for any social statuses or acceptance.

E: weed does not cure anything but it is palliative and if not done to excess I see it as beneficial. Back to me…. Where I live weed is not legal and if a policeman catches you with it he hits you with his stick and puts you in jail which I do not believe is benifical.



My best friend recently found out I smoke and she doesn't like it. She hasn't told me she doesn't accept it and I'm wrong and stuff, but I know she disapproves. Since I moved back to Florida, we talk way less than when I was stationed in Camp Pendleton. I feel like we are truly drifting apart. Ironically, it doesn't bother me. Overall I am still the same person, just altered somewhat.






So instead of rambling, I will ask again Do people change?

E: So I answer again. Yes. Can you imagine how dull the world would be without change?
gakINGKONG On about 10 hours ago




Lutz, Florida
#13New Post! Feb 16, 2018 @ 17:27:41
@Cpat92 Said

My curiosity has been increasing greatly in the past few days. One thing I noticed is that, my relationship with my best friend is starting to drift apart. We've been friends going on 8 years now. My time in the Marine Corps and being on my own has led to me changing greatly. My best friend noticed that I have a "darker" personality now. She can handle it, but there are times I can go so dark that makes her worried. I used to isolate myself out of fear of rejection and stuff like that. Now, I enjoy being isolated. One major change (if it's considered a change) is when I decided to smoke. I used to smoke cigarettes for 2 years and I quit months after deployment. I now smoke weed. I have personal reasons of why I do it and none of it is for any social statuses or acceptance.

My best friend recently found out I smoke and she doesn't like it. She hasn't told me she doesn't accept it and I'm wrong and stuff, but I know she disapproves. Since I moved back to Florida, we talk way less than when I was stationed in Camp Pendleton. I feel like we are truly drifting apart. Ironically, it doesn't bother me. Overall I am still the same person, just altered somewhat.

So instead of rambling, I will ask again Do people change?


Yes of course people change.

Friendships are illusory. If you have a friend, count yourself blessed but know that very very few friendships last through the decades.

Eventually you even may lose contact to your closest family members. I've seen that.
Cpat92 On December 12, 2018
Why So Serious??





Lauderhill, Florida
#14New Post! Feb 16, 2018 @ 18:05:46
i do have the full belief people change. I change often. My personality is still somewhat dark. I still have my genuine “niceness” and I still seem welcoming to many people. I do isolate myself still. No longer out of fear of rejection, but because I like to be alone. I sometimes lose patience with people because of their actions and word choices. My temper has decrease a decent amount which I find to be good.
Willi On August 21, 2018




northinmind,
#15New Post! Feb 16, 2018 @ 23:52:51
be honest.
never let that change.
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