Do people change? If so, does it affect relationships(with significant others,friends, family)? In what way would it affect those relationships? My curiosity has been increasing greatly in the past few days. One thing I noticed is that, my relationship with my best friend is starting to drift apart. We've been friends going on 8 years now. My time in the Marine Corps and being on my own has led to me changing greatly. My best friend noticed that I have a "darker" personality now. She can handle it, but there are times I can go so dark that makes her worried. I used to isolate myself out of fear of rejection and stuff like that. Now, I enjoy being isolated. One major change (if it's considered a change) is when I decided to smoke. I used to smoke cigarettes for 2 years and I quit months after deployment. I now smoke weed. I have personal reasons of why I do it and none of it is for any social statuses or acceptance.
My best friend recently found out I smoke and she doesn't like it. She hasn't told me she doesn't accept it and I'm wrong and stuff, but I know she disapproves. Since I moved back to Florida, we talk way less than when I was stationed in Camp Pendleton. I feel like we are truly drifting apart. Ironically, it doesn't bother me. Overall I am still the same person, just altered somewhat.
So instead of rambling, I will ask again
Do people change?
I think a person can adapt to change, and a person learns as they go. Sounds like you're alright with moving forward in your direction and maybe the two of you both don't care to ruin the friendship so most likely ya'll will reconnect.My fiend and I disconnected our friendship but not a daily thing meaning we kept in touch and went to a couple concerts and her husband died and she had moved 3 states away over 20 years ago and our last outing ended it. I was appalled cause she not only was drinking but she changed shirts in the parking lot and would not let her daughter be smart and safe as a teen learning to stand her ground.what was new for she and I was, I had classes online and close to finishing she began classes at her nearby community college.By that night out she had graduated a science degree. My community didn't care for online education and I didn't receive the links or websites and didn't meet anyone in the biz so mine didn't prosper all to well. Well, she bucked up on the outing with the same calling to be the person all the riders needed when we were teenagers but presently over forty. She was always the sober one but was the complete opposite on our last outing.I felt equal with her educationally although she had many work experience in accounting, my study was hardly that level, and seems it went to her head, so so smart and the bad part about it is she was a perfect match for all the organizational front runner professions I have had to encounter many times in various ways such as looking for a job, community needs, information.She just didn't make any sense at all in her attitude and degrading theory. and its a shame we all trusted her enough and just her attitude to want to be wreckless. in a company rented car to beat all.