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misscj On February 09, 2007




Anywhere I lay my hat, United
#1New Post! Jul 10, 2005 @ 07:41:07
Friday evening I finally broke up with my bf It's been horrible for the past day. My feelings are up and down, one minute I am crying and regreting breaking up with him, the next moment I see and remember clearly why I did break up and my tears stop.

I feel so guilty cos I have hurt another person, I've distroyed his life and I can't make it better.

We broke up cos he just didnt give me what I needed. I did everything I could to make him happy but he never thought about me, instead he thought for me.

I have seen what he was like before we got together when he was going through a break up and I hate knowing that I am putting him through that same pain

I feel terrible and that I am a horrible person.
noveltygun On January 05, 2022




seattle, Washington
#2New Post! Jul 10, 2005 @ 07:42:27
sorry to hear...its been awhile for me but can understand...hope you work things thorugh and feel better soon
misscj On February 09, 2007




Anywhere I lay my hat, United
#3New Post! Jul 10, 2005 @ 07:45:21
Thank you. It's just hard getting over the immense guilt that I have hurt someone that I love. And that's the shame of it I do Love him, very very very much but it just was never truely gonna work out
noveltygun On January 05, 2022




seattle, Washington
#4New Post! Jul 10, 2005 @ 07:50:14
definitely...but at least you see it now rather then wasting a few more months together...all for nought
wasageechak On June 24, 2006




The Fort, Canada
#5New Post! Jul 10, 2005 @ 07:59:26
luckily for me, my three week highschool relationship is still goin' strong...
noveltygun On January 05, 2022




seattle, Washington
#6New Post! Jul 10, 2005 @ 08:00:30
well you have about another 3 weeks...
wasageechak On June 24, 2006




The Fort, Canada
#7New Post! Jul 10, 2005 @ 08:05:08
but seriously, all of my breakups thus far have been like:
her: I'm breaking up
me: oh....okay
noveltygun On January 05, 2022




seattle, Washington
#8New Post! Jul 11, 2005 @ 17:19:55
its high school wat do you expect from those??
El_Tino On October 12, 2023
booyaka!





Albuquerque, New Mexico
#9New Post! Jul 11, 2005 @ 17:22:13
sorry to hear that

but you're not a horrible person.
mib On December 25, 2007




Yuma, Arizona
#10New Post! Jul 11, 2005 @ 18:56:15
did you tell him why you broke up with him? did you talk to him about the problems before you broke up with him to maybe give him a chance to change?
barry7316 On June 03, 2014




burnie, Australia
#11New Post! Aug 05, 2005 @ 12:00:59
lol well iam in high school and its been 4 MONTHS so how am i goin lol
stina1119l On September 22, 2005




, Massachusetts
#12New Post! Sep 08, 2005 @ 18:15:59
You are going through classical stages of grieving & healing. Often times the person who did the breaking up is left with a huge sense of guilt. Just keep remembering that no matter how 'great' he might be, he was not great FOR YOU. For that reason and only that reason you broke it off. Both him & you will find a person that is great for yourselves and move on. He will grieve, but he will heal as well. Guilt is a bad an emotion as pain... Eventually he will be grateful to you for opening the door for him to find someone that is better for him. Also your guilt will lessen and you will find someone better for you.
Me & my bf were together 9 years, we owned a house and got engaged 5 months ago. We broke up 2 weeks ago. His guilt is awful, I think he feels worse than I do. I have been reading self-help books on moving on and healing a broken heart. What I told you above is part of what Ive read and understood.

Hang in there, it will get alot easier! I REALLY DO PROMISE THAT!
hawke_700 On April 17, 2006




M.K, United Kingdom
#13New Post! Oct 08, 2005 @ 13:17:57
My last girlfriend broke up with me and I didn't care less, I was actually laughing at her because she wanted me again, just don't blame everything entirely on yourself, you'll think to yourself, why did i do it, but yet it needed it to be done, unfortunately by you. I don't know if I phrased the post right, but i hope it helped.
ann On May 16, 2007

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london, United Kingdom
#14New Post! Nov 14, 2005 @ 13:59:57
Hey missci, your so not a horrible person don't think like that it'll just make you feel worser. Been through the same thing, however you have to be honest and express your true feelings if you keep it hidden, your in denial and its not fair for him. He'll get over it in time.
webslinger14 On February 14, 2006




vancouver, Canada
#15New Post! Nov 16, 2005 @ 12:11:13
You guys should talk about the reason why you should stop the relationship, sometimes you need to speak the truth though it will hurt, because it's the only way that will set you free.
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