At this time of your life, can you say that you have found your purpose in life..

I can picture you with a cello.

Or you thinking electric guitar?

Even if I never become much of anything or my contributions are useless, as I told a friend once, I don't want people looking back and saying "Hey, remember that Banana guy? What jerk that guy was - look at everything he went and screwed up."

... you have a point. action speaks louder than words.

Also want to say that if you're at a point in life where you're content and don't have anything critically disastrous to fix so as not to hurt yourself or others, your purpose might just be kicking up your feet and enjoying what you've got.

That for me is a hard question to answer.Since 2003 I've had a heart attack and survived a run in with Cancer and survived and almost bled to death just after the operation.
That's three bites at Death's Cherry,I know I'm still here for a reason but just what that reason is escapes me.

I don't think I'll ever reach a point where I can say I've found my purpose, I think there isn't just one thing that will give my life fulfilment. I'd be a bit bored if it were only one thing.

From what I've taken from you over the past couple of years is that you're a very good husband for your wife. It may be just simply that and a good faithful, romantic, long-lasting counterpart is worth more to everyone than most other things a person could be.

Yeah, I always wanted to achieve world orgy - like a massive Woodstock but realized that would lose flavour after a few....million years so we'd eventually all have to pick ourselves up and start shooting at one another again.

Excellent question.




No, not ever predestined, never! There is no purpose that we don't discover and make for ourselves. Don't settle. Keep learning about yourself and keep looking. It's better to have your epiphany on your deathbed than to never have had it at all.




You sound like my alter ego; late bloomer, writer (books, yeah, one, but.... ). I was a columnist for a while though, which was as fulfilling as anything I've ever done. And I think that's where we all find our purpose in life, fulfillment. It can be something as simple as digging a ditch, or as complicated as being a parent (I pity the child whose parent receives no fulfillment from it.)




Until you finally learn what you're good at, and what you're not, and start using that to achieve fulfillment, you will feel empty. That emptiness is there for a reason, motivation. Of course then there are those who've had it beat out of them.

I just recently read this which sort of comes from the other end of the question, by a master of the quill, David Mamet: "The Talmud cautions that when a man dies, he will be called to account for all the unenjoyed, permitted pleasures of this life."--The Secret Knowledge Notice he didn't say "God" cautions.

Those motivated by evil or overwhelming fear will always end up being lost.

What if you're like me and what you're really good at is useless?

If you're good at something, it isn't useless. There may not be a market for it, and you'll probably have to get a dull job to support it, but I think whatever skill you have should be fostered. More than likely it's time hasn't come, or like I say, there may be no market for it at this time.

Say you're good at making your children or grandchildren feel good about themselves. Could anything have more intrinsic value, or less market value?

I certainly have ,been married , devorced, married again,got a lovely family, grand children great grand children have had great job satisfaction, achieved my goal with sugarcraft and cake decorating, and been to lots of other countries,and now retired and teach others to cake decorate,your only here once so live your life to the full

Yeah, I see what you're saying - it goes back to that 'charm' thing. I have a way with words that may help to inspire some and then even more people in the future if the ideas and inspiration carries on.

Most people don't have a use for it but some may and even more people may need it down the road.

I always thought my purpose in life was to serve as a bad example, which I was quite good at.

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