@Diggergig Said
I was going to title this 'Are you Happy,' but of course, being happy all the time isn't a natural state of being. In fact, being happy 24-7 is an effect of a recognised genetic dissorder. It's an extreme emotion, after all. (Not the same as having a positive outlook, of course, which is quite possible, and indeed, enviable.)
But do you stop and view your take on life? Do you feel as though your feelings shape your life, or that your life, your circumstances and your environment are shaping your mood?
I try not to stop and smell the roses when it comes to my life. I'd end up with a whole lot of thorns.
As for you second question, I really think it goes both ways. I'm not a happy person; in fact, I guess I could say I'm a really un-happy person. I don't like myself, andfor the fact that I'm a chicken to do anything about it, I've resorted to tolerating myself, but even that begins to get too much sometimes.
I've been diagnosed with depression, been on anti-depressents (which haven't helped) and I tend to have some rather extreme highs and lows. Well, actually, I have a lot of really extreme lows. I have a neutral ground where I can stand and not want to throw myself off a bridge, but I'm certaintly not content with myself. I don't even know if I would know what that feels like.
I think my circumstances, and all those previously, most definitely do have an effect on my emotions. Unfortantely there isn't really a whole lot I can do to change it, save for putting myself on the streets. Which, at this time year, wouldn't really help matter's much.
I think your family life and your home life do have a lot of say on how you feel. I'm sure if I had some sort of stability things would be easier.
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If you do have an idea of how you feel, is it something mostly positive, negative, or indifferent? Are you in touch with those feelings only when you look for them, or are they always pressing at you?
Mostly negative, obviously. Sometimes I have a few days where I'm just me, and although it's not happiness or contentment, it's the close as I'm going to get and that really is my sort of happy ground.
My emotions run rampant and there's sometimes where I'll be on my nuetral ground in the matter of a split second I can be so low that if someone handed me a loaded gun I couldn't promise not to use it.
I haven't exactly figured out my trigger's yet. There's such a variety of things. A family on the television. A dog getting killed. My mother screaming at me. Picking up needles everywhere. Walking down the street and not making myself jump in front of a bus.
Do they press? I'm not so sure. I know that they're always sitting right there, ready to pounce. Escape from them is hardly an option.
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Is it an unrealistic goal to seek to be happy all the time? After years of trying, I have settled for contentment, also garnered from the viewpoint that - compared to many - I have a good life, with no reason to feel sorry for myself. It has made a big difference to me, I feel, to accept contentment.
There is no reason for this post beyond an interest to see just how many people here feel about their life. I would like to know how many people find themselves going through life without even noticing their feelings - is this a good thing? Why *should* we always feel something? Surely just 'getting on with it' is a natural state of being?
I guess on a certain level, I always do feel my...feelings. Although they are extreme and sometimes tend to run rampant and I can't always control them.
I do believe it's a good thing to feel something. Always. But it's certainly healthy to have a good balance of both negative and positive vibes happening in your life. I guess I'm kind of an example as to what happens when you don't.
Is just "getting on with it" natural? I'd tend to think no. When you close yourself down and start by just going through your daily motions is hardly natural. People feel, that's human nature. To turn yourself off completely just to function isn't natural, and certaintly not healthy, in my opinion.
That's why I think we should feel something. To stay human. To have some sort of connection with the world around us to give us reason.
Because without it, it all seems rather pointless.
Neat thread idea, by the way.
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