I wish I could say this is the last time I will make a relationship post asking possible repeated questions, but this is a promise I cannot make at the moment .
I am wondering if I am stopping myself from being in a relationship. While social anxiety is the obvious (just remembered that one thread). One idea that just came to me is that another reason (possibly a stronger reason) is my internal sexual desires. Sometimes I make attempts to pursue them, then get hit with a lot of guilt. Afterwards, I tell myself this is why I'm single. Am I truly stopping myself? Is it in my head, or is Karma, or the entity I serve causing this?
Pat, despite your Christian beliefs the 'devil' in our heads is necessary (if functioning properly) it protects us from getting ourselves hurt and it accesses external knowledge.
Truth be told I think there are not as many innocent people out there as we could hope for but there are some out there.
True love is found easier when we seek out those who could use our company; people who are legitimately lonely perhaps because they are not highly attractive, socially adept or have some sort of quirk or uncanniness that makes them hard for most others to understand
And learning to set aside ego of how one should express themselves in order to better try and understand people is the second key to finding a genuine person for a genuine life-long partnership.
I wish I could say this is the last time I will make a relationship post asking possible repeated questions, but this is a promise I cannot make at the moment .
I am wondering if I am stopping myself from being in a relationship. While social anxiety is the obvious (just remembered that one thread). One idea that just came to me is that another reason (possibly a stronger reason) is my internal sexual desires. Sometimes I make attempts to pursue them, then get hit with a lot of guilt. Afterwards, I tell myself this is why I'm single. Am I truly stopping myself? Is it in my head, or is Karma, or the entity I serve causing this?
Since this isn't in the man talk forum , I'm going to put in my two cents.
I don't know what "entity" you serve be it christian or other , if in the 'rules' of serving this entity its taught that its wrong to be act on 'sexual desires' then yes that probably does have a bearing on your not pursuing a relationship.
From reading your posts , I say you aren't willing to settle for the first one that crosses your path or for that matter, just anyone that comes along.
I'm thinking its that you are waiting for the right one , and as long as you aren't hiding in your apartment with the drapes shut , then you have a good chance of meeting the right one .
But I could be off base with JMHO
Since this isn't in the man talk forum , I'm going to put in my two cents.
I don't know what "entity" you serve be it christian or other , if in the 'rules' of serving this entity its taught that its wrong to be act on 'sexual desires' then yes that probably does have a bearing on your not pursuing a relationship.
From reading your posts , I say you aren't willing to settle for the first one that crosses your path or for that matter, just anyone that comes along.
I'm thinking its that you are waiting for the right one , and as long as you aren't hiding in your apartment with the drapes shut , then you have a good chance of meeting the right one .
But I could be off base with JMHO
Thank you for your opinion. I put it here mainly because I didn't want only a males viewpoint. That being said, I'm glad you gave your opinion.
I haven't heard that phrase before. That is very interesting. I'm going to remember it.
'You have to function properly in order to succeed'
I think you're joking about not recognizing the reference but here's the video if necessary
Christians call it 'Awakening'; Philosophers call it 'Existential Crisis' and other religionists simply say that they need to quit their jobs for awhile as God has called them to start their pilgrimage.
Either way the doldrums of menial work in a cold, superficial and meaningless society seems almost intended to get people to start asking bigger questions (so their brains don't otherwise shut down from boredom)
Most people who begin thinking and realize that their friends, family, past romances all served (accidentally or intentionally) as detriment to truer ambitions and passions we were otherwise instilled with.
Thus most people go through life only knowing it as a colorful as the factory walls they look at each and every day while, somewhere, in the back of their minds is the knowledge or art to become a bigger/better thing for themselves or even society as well.
Note at the end of the video the man wakes up among the nameless, faceless, many again only to now remember that he's been made for more sophisticated things.
YES, being a rock band, may have also had those military fathers that Twisted Sister warned us about; cursing them each day of their teen lives demanding they put down their 'electric twangers' and learn how to use an M16.
You've been seeing what people do with M16s nowadays, eh?
Anyways
I believe there are many people out there who would prefer
steady company but in the social arena a lot of people
we come by seem to serve as flak to slow us down
from rising to become anything more than underpaid,
desperate and subservient for our entire life.
So don't take any one person too seriously
and also be prepared to have to weed through MANY people.
They say not to look for love but the weeding is far too slow if you don't
'You have to function properly in order to succeed'
I think you're joking about not recognizing the reference but here's the video if necessary
Christians call it 'Awakening'; Philosophers call it 'Existential Crisis' and other religionists simply say that they need to quit their jobs for awhile as God has called them to start their pilgrimage.
Either way the doldrums of menial work in a cold, superficial and meaningless society seems almost intended to get people to start asking bigger questions (so their brains don't otherwise shut down from boredom)
Most people who begin thinking and realize that their friends, family, past romances all served (accidentally or intentionally) as detriment to truer ambitions and passions we were otherwise instilled with.
Thus most people go through life only knowing it as a colorful as the factory walls they look at each and every day while, somewhere, in the back of their minds is the knowledge or art to become a bigger/better thing for themselves or even society as well.
Note at the end of the video the man wakes up among the nameless, faceless, many again only to now remember that he's been made for more sophisticated things.
YES, being a rock band, may have also had those military fathers that Twisted Sister warned us about; cursing them each day of their teen lives demanding they put down their 'electric twangers' and learn how to use an M16.
You've been seeing what people do with M16s nowadays, eh?
Anyways
I believe there are many people out there who would prefer
steady company but in the social arena a lot of people
we come by seem to serve as flak to slow us down
from rising to become anything more than underpaid,
desperate and subservient for our entire life.
So don't take any one person too seriously
and also be prepared to have to weed through MANY people.
They say not to look for love but the weeding is far too slow if you don't
I was referring to the lonely heart quote actually. I heard the one you quoted above.
I was referring to the lonely heart quote actually. I heard the one you quoted above.
Oh yeah, it's better to be lonely but still ready for the right person rather than get broken and b**** slap the right person across the pie hole when they finally come around.
Oh yeah, it's better to be lonely but still ready for the right person rather than get broken and b**** slap the right person across the pie hole when they finally come around.
Mar 19, 2019 @ 02:54:55
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