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marrisa3636 On October 24, 2010




Chicago,
#1New Post! Nov 07, 2009 @ 14:02:01
I met a guy pretty randomly online about 3 months ago. He IMed me, and we just sort of introduced ourselves and we started talking. We kept talking acouple times a week, we would get on webcam and talk, but the sound on mine does not always work, so we exchanged numbers, so we would be on the phone sometimes too and we just talked and, well got to know eachother. We text eachother all the time, we talk online and on the phone.

We are both 19, in college, so we kind of are going through the same kind of things in life. He lives in NY and I live in FL. I used to live in NY and have lots of family there, so that was just another thing we had in common.

The issue now is, we are always joking about "whenever someday, we meet up...blah, blah.." but the truth is, I really do like him and dont know if I should find a way to make a meeting possible. He said he wanted to try to come down to see me over spring break this year, and then would joke that I have to buy HIM the ticket...and I was like NO. "You want to see me, you can find a way to get here". The truth is though, now that more time has passed, I really do want to meet him too.

I know its usually frowned upon, but you think I should go and see him, maybe over the holiday break or something. I was thinking maybe surprising him for our B-days, because Iam the 15th of February and he is the 16th...so I thought maybe I could do that. I dont know, I just was wondering, would u guys try to really make it happen and meet someone like this, or would you say, b/c of how we met, so randomly and on a chat online, that I should just never meet him???
49thbrat On November 17, 2009

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Truro, Canada
#2New Post! Nov 07, 2009 @ 14:07:12
You could take a friend with you until you "feel out"
the situation and if everything is ok just don't do it
ALONE. That's just me,but I am a "go for it" kind of person.
Decide carefully.
NickoBorgir On November 18, 2009

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Melbourne, Australia
#3New Post! Nov 07, 2009 @ 14:14:43
Sure, why not? Just be careful, but just make sure you have clearly, and I mean 100% clearly, like being as blunt as a housebrick, let your intentions (or lack there of(however you want to look at it)) known.

It's your choice, be careful, be clear, be safe, and be positive
marrisa3636 On October 24, 2010




Chicago,
#4New Post! Nov 07, 2009 @ 14:16:53
Well, That was actually what I was planning on doing. I was planning on going to see some family that I have not seen in a long time, and while I am there, meet him for lunch or dinner, and probably like bring a friend along, or my cousin along, something like that. I was kind of surprised but he actually asked me if I was going to allow him to meet my family. He always tells me, "how are you going to explain me to your family?" and I always ask him, "well, how are you going to explain ME to your family??", I mean my parents know about me talking to him, we are a very open family. I take it that I am his little secret at the moment. Part of me is ok with that and the other part of me is not ok with that. I dont know.
treebee On April 13, 2015
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London, United Kingdom
#5New Post! Nov 07, 2009 @ 14:19:25
Definitely go for it, as long as you do it safe
NickoBorgir On November 18, 2009

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Melbourne, Australia
#6New Post! Nov 07, 2009 @ 14:20:03
@marrisa3636 Said

Well, That was actually what I was planning on doing. I was planning on going to see some family that I have not seen in a long time, and while I am there, meet him for lunch or dinner, and probably like bring a friend along, or my cousin along, something like that. I was kind of surprised but he actually asked me if I was going to allow him to meet my family. He always tells me, "how are you going to explain me to your family?" and I always ask him, "well, how are you going to explain ME to your family??", I mean my parents know about me talking to him, we are a very open family. I take it that I am his little secret at the moment. Part of me is ok with that and the other part of me is not ok with that. I dont know.



Just as a guy, may I suggest lunch? It's the least informal of any meal 'date'. Can be easily snuck away from, there's nothing to be able to be read into it.

For example, if it doesn't go well, you could always 'have something you need to do' in the afternoon.

Or with dinner there's the whole, 'well it's nearly time for bed, lets try and get her into it' thought.....

Just tryin to help
abzenze On March 21, 2011




unknown, Australia
#7New Post! Nov 07, 2009 @ 14:29:14
well if u guys are serious it would be weird if the family didnt know about u .. but for time being its okay i suppose..

it depends where u stand in his eyes and u gotta be real with what ur gut says.. i think he is curious on how this will go and u guys seem very fresh with this relationship/friendship..

i would say go with a cousin or in a open area with alot of people.. the net is full of douche bags so keep ur eyes open . .

personally i was gonna jet off to houston to meet a friend i met over the net.. lol then my best friend knocked some sense into me.. have someone escort u always or know where u at
canadianblonde On November 12, 2009




Ft. Lauderdale,
#8New Post! Nov 07, 2009 @ 15:14:12
from personal experience I met my online friend 9 years ago and later married he just recently passed away in a tragic accident...my opinion is you only live once and life is too short..just be safe and smart about it...the lunch idea is perfect...my husband had flown 5000 miles just to have 3 days of lunches and afternoons spent together and nothing more. We both agreed that a relationship that starts where all you do is talk is amazing because you get to know every little detail about each other and truly find out what each other wants in life and what your goals are. Good luck and just remember be safe it was the best thind I ever did and I do not have regrets except that our love was cut way too short!!!
agentorange On March 29, 2011




Robertsbridge, United Kingdom
#9New Post! Nov 07, 2009 @ 15:49:27
I wouldn't
SpoOny On November 26, 2017
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Moo-Box, Finland
#10New Post! Nov 07, 2009 @ 16:00:19
I'd say go for it, as long as you're careful.
PaNda On January 28, 2010
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, Texas
#11New Post! Nov 07, 2009 @ 16:20:24
If he's willing to send you money for the trip, I see nothing wrong with it. I got involved with a guy online who was stationed in another state and he couldn't leave the Army base. He gave me $100 for gas to get there, paid most of the cost for my motel room, and bought just about all the food.

My best friend and family members were able to contact me at all times (cell phone and motel room #'s) and they knew what time I'd be meeting this man. I also had a friend who lived not far from the base. I met him in public as well.

Be very careful. It seems like you two are very close and you would always wonder if you decided not to go. Best wishes.
Allyson On January 20, 2010

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, Michigan
#12New Post! Nov 07, 2009 @ 16:30:23
You live in Florida or Chicago???
three months is not that long of a time, becareful, you havent seen all sides of a person on line in that short of time,Dont meet alone its not safe.
PARIAH On November 07, 2009




wolverhampton, United Kingdom
#13New Post! Nov 07, 2009 @ 17:03:48
@Allyson Said

You live in Florida or Chicago???
three months is not that long of a time, becareful, you havent seen all sides of a person on line in that short of time,Dont meet alone its not safe.


Agree with Ally,it's probebly best for all concerned to meet in a group for the first few times.
MaleAttract101 On November 07, 2009




New york, New York
#14New Post! Nov 07, 2009 @ 17:14:31
@marrisa3636 Said

I met a guy pretty randomly online about 3 months ago. He IMed me, and we just sort of introduced ourselves and we started talking. We kept talking acouple times a week, we would get on webcam and talk, but the sound on mine does not always work, so we exchanged numbers, so we would be on the phone sometimes too and we just talked and, well got to know eachother. We text eachother all the time, we talk online and on the phone.

We are both 19, in college, so we kind of are going through the same kind of things in life. He lives in NY and I live in FL. I used to live in NY and have lots of family there, so that was just another thing we had in common.

The issue now is, we are always joking about "whenever someday, we meet up...blah, blah.." but the truth is, I really do like him and dont know if I should find a way to make a meeting possible. He said he wanted to try to come down to see me over spring break this year, and then would joke that I have to buy HIM the ticket...and I was like NO. "You want to see me, you can find a way to get here". The truth is though, now that more time has passed, I really do want to meet him too.

I know its usually frowned upon, but you think I should go and see him, maybe over the holiday break or something. I was thinking maybe surprising him for our B-days, because Iam the 15th of February and he is the 16th...so I thought maybe I could do that. I dont know, I just was wondering, would u guys try to really make it happen and meet someone like this, or would you say, b/c of how we met, so randomly and on a chat online, that I should just never meet him???



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it might save you some heartache (or even your life)
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MaleAttract101 On November 07, 2009




New york, New York
#15New Post! Nov 07, 2009 @ 17:16:04
@PARIAH Said

Agree with Ally,it's probebly best for all concerned to meet in a group for the first few times.



The group thing is always best. There are crazy people out there.
I should know...I'm an expert
https://GettheRightMan.com
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