The values and beliefs a person was taught as a kid growing up doesn't change beause society encourages it .
Here is a bit of history to explaine my question in the OP.
My two brothers and myself were raised by our paternal grandparents who instilled ,or tried to , instill in us the values and habits that they themselves practiced. They paid their bills , didn't rip off their neighbors, kept a promise when they made one, didn't steal from any store or place of business, didn't tell lies . And one of the most important things I remember hearing them say one more then a few occasions is that blood is thicker then water and you don't ever turn your back on your family.
My oldest brother not only seems to have totally forgotten what we were taught but has done things that makes it seem like he was never exposed to anything resembling honesty or honor or truth . And he did these to family members at a time when they were dealing with the sudden death of their dad.
OK, I dont know your brothers life history. Im going to keep this as simple as possible.
Beliefs and Values
Capabilities and skills
The above are what is classed as our logical levels of experience (in life). They dictate how we act and behave, to ourselves and others.
Did these differ with your older brother to the rest of your family. IE, id he spend a lot of his life ina different environment to the others? Interesting note: The higher up the pyramid you make a change, the more effect it has on lower levels. Im going to guess that there was some influence from somewhere which created different Beliefs and Values, unless your parents kept you all under lock and chain 24/7. Who knows maybe they neglected him more compared to younger siblings.
Think hard and Deep, maybe you know more than you think you know.
As a side note: I was raised in a Christian family and my parents tried their hardest to instill Christian Beliefs and Values on me. It didnt work. I have seen many other church kids bought up in similar environments, who turned out like a photocopied version of their parents, basically living their parents wishes. Yet I noticed pattern with Christian raised kids, it goes one way or the other. Either strong christian beliefs and values. Or like myself, we fight it strongly, we have to instill opposite values and beliefs in ourselves that are quite off the scale just to counter what is being instilled.
And as far as society goes. Really? Im going to use Racism and Homophobia as an example. It is mostly society that has changed the view on these (just simple things like the credits at the end of TV programs such as Grimm, showing two guys together as the end graphic after the credit). So I do believe society does dictate our reality, but I also think the acceptance has to be their within to start with. Society just strengthens beliefs and values or strengthens opposition.
Anyway this a deep topic. Once I have read some more Grinder and Bandler, I will happily resume it. But so far I in no way class myself as fully knowledgable to give a proper detailed explanation.
My condolences to your dad.