@Erimitus Said
…and now (as usual) I will expatiate. (I learned the word expatiate and do not get the opportunity to use it much)
One thesis is that a persons behavior patterns are (to a considerable extent) scripted. The script, bequeathed by parents, is inherent, written in DNA, and the result of millennia of evolution. There is no possibility of deviation except maybe with the use of drugs or behavior modification therapy (e.g., Clockwork Orange).
There is also (of course) free will. The script (that may not be the correct word) …the script is like the hand that is dealt in a card game. How the cards in the hand are played is the behavior patterns exhibited.
And (of course) how a hand is played is programmed (to a considerable extent) by parents at first and then society in general (I believe that it is called imprinting). Free will (in my experience) is an option that is seldom chosen. We (well maybe not you but at least I am) compelled to respond to situations in a way that I have been programmed to. Alas…
The behavior patterns of a flake seem (to me) to be self defeating but OCD’s (in many cases) cannot help behaving as they do.
Anyway, you (CPat) are a psychology student. What do you think?
I am stating think that it is possible that she told me the truth. She used the nickname that she gave me. She called me boo. It may still stay in the back of my mind that she decided to flake due to other reasons.
1: Maybe she misinterpreted our conversations and had an expectation she did not want to meet.
2: She decided to go to lunch with someone else and didn’t want to tell me.
3: Possible she caught feelings for me and it scared her a bit (this is the least likely to occur)