Advice on calming down?

i try to laugh my way out of anger.
it works sometimes.

other times i go to the moon and set up my laser to distroy this world.

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Meditation, I saw it was mentioned previously. Practicing mind control helps you can reign yourself in when you "lose it."

I am a naturally high strung, anxious, over-thinking, sensitive type person. When something pisses me off, I go through a series of calm down techniques. They involve asking myself if this will matter in a year, will I feel the same way in the morning, etc. I also sit and concentrate on breathing and repeating calm, positive thoughts over and over - often out loud.

It's all about stress management.

This is a long term solution, but, change your self perception, and also, the perception you have of others.

No person is perfectly good or evil, we are all somewhere in between. Failing something does not make us a failure. Every person, including *you* has value as a person just because you are a person. Beauty, intelligence, money, fame etc., add nothing to the value of a human. We will never be liked by everyone, nor will we like everyone. Everyone including me can be and at times is an asshat but that does not make us bad or wrong, it just makes us human... and, you alone always have control over your actions even though you don't always have control of your emotions.

Working out all the above helped me stop getting angry.

When I am angry and seeing red and want to snap out of it I pick up a bible and randomly start reading some inane passage. This usually makes me laugh... mostly because it makes people think that I actually read it because I believe it!

Anyway, this usually distracts me long enough for the people around me to run for their lives.

If that doesn't work, I start looking at all the stuff I want to smash and the people I want to kill... I then start listing in my mind the monetary and legal costs of carrying through with my desire to smash and/or kill. Somewhere between the $ I don't want to pay and the jail time I don't want to serve, I get control of my self.

As for long term solutions... read everyone else's posts....

Although, a murder sufficiently well planned should not lead to jail time... so, think first, then kill away

That falls in the category of the long term solution.

I get online and write the most verbose, eloquent rant I can muster. I look for words to describe exactly the caliber of absolute bulls***tery I encountered, and use that. I rake in the facebook likes and smile at my own cunning brilliance.

Cello music also helps.

Camomile tea is a godsend at times like that. I usually sit with a cup and a blank word document and just write down everything I'm feeling to get it out of my system.

Breathing techniques will probably help too.

Atavan. Keeps me sane.

Learn your triggers and try to limit your exposure to them and learn your early signs this is coming and extricate yourself to somewhere you can either rage at a mirror or calm yourself down in safety. Try to avoid pharmaceuticals like propananolol as you will build up a dependency and/or tolerance which means when you REALLY need them they wont be as effective.

A few tips:

1. The breathing that other people have already suggested is good. But you need to practice multiple times a day even when you are not feeling angry for your body to start using it as a go to response. You won't be able to rationally think during those bouts of anger about how you should be responding. Just won't happen.

2. Your feelings of inferiority are driving your anger, and bottling so many emotions makes it impossible for you to handle minor irritations in an appropriate way. They just top off the bottle and boil over out of the top. I would strongly suggest seeing a counselor to work on your self-esteem, recognition and acknowledgement of your emotions, and tactics for restructuring your thoughts and handling your emotions.

3. Journaling could be good if you do it well. I find though that a lot of people really have no idea how to journal in a way that will provide either insight or release. At work we have the ladies do thinking reports and it looks a lot like this, though the form isn't exactly the same. The elements are all pretty much there though.

Thinking report

They get turned into me which does a couple of things. It increases my insight into what the client is thinking/feeling, and they provide an opportunity for them to get feedback about very specific elements of situations. In addition, they help them to increase their own insight and over time they seem to encourage change, recognition of thinking errors, etc.

4. Examples of thinking errors would be things like "crisis building" which is expecting crisis situations based on limited information and getting yourself worked up about it; or black and white/ all or nothing thinking.

Google thinking errors and you should find lots of resources on those. Recognizing them and correcting for them can go a long ways towards reducing anxiety, anger, etc.

Have you thought of getting some sort of self help material for managing anger and improving your self belief/NLP etc? this may help but isnt free, or quick as you have to learn how to be a new person. I was having similar several years ago and am slowly on the road to recovery(thats a misnomer, I will never recover but I will grow to be able to overcome it.)

Take deep calming breaths and just think that I do not have to act like that.

I know that my husband gets like taht first thing I tell him to do is breathe and put on the headphones and go for a long walk if you can. If your at work and you get like that say a prayer. Im not a religious person but even shall i say try to find time to meditate not pray , find time for yourself and reflect on the things that make you happy think of inner peace and the things that make you happy , try and write down the things that bother you each nite and let out your feelings.