Once a cheat, always a cheat? (Poll)

Ok, to quote you "bull s***". People who cheat do so because it is what they decide. They are freely making that choice. No one is forcing them to cheat. If they feel they are not getting what they need form the relationship then they have a number of choices. First up they can simply leave and seek what they feel is missing elsewhere. Secondly they can simply remain within the relationship and accept that they will not necessarily have all of their 'needs' met, or thirdly they can discuss with their partner what their concerns are. How they feel and what they think is missing. Depending on their partners reactio they can then as a couple choose to work on the relationship or they can end the relationship. But cheaters dont do this. They take the selfish and gutless way out and attempt to have it both ways. They make decisions based purely on what they think will most benefit them and they either dont care or dont even consider how their actions may impact upon others.

People who cheat always do so of their own free wil. They are never forced to cheat, they choose to cheat so so say that anyone else ought to take any ofd the responsibility for their actions, their decisions is bull s***. it really is.

By the way, to use the word "collusion" is, to use your words "bull s***".

Your decision to preface your opinions by refering to my views as bull s*** did somewhat change the tone of our exchange of opinions. Such a change in tone i think was, and is, unnecessary.

Anyway, when it comes to cheating you have your opinion and i have mine...

I call it as I see it, but you are correct. I usually refrain from words such as bull s***, and it was unnecessary. My apologies for the term.

And i call it as i see it!

No worries though. We see things differently. End of story.

So true.

I can't really answer this. I never been in a relationship to add my two cents. I can still make a guess and say that it is possible?? I shall leave with that

Once a person has cheated they are a cheater.

For me there are 2 comparisons:

1) Virginity, once you have lost it you are no longer a virgin... once you have cheated you are a cheater.

2) Alcoholic: A person that is an alcoholic is an alcoholic forever. They may or may not be controlling it, but they are none the less an alcoholic forever.

Cheaters... are scum. If you want someone else break-up and move on. If you love the person you are with, show some love and respect... keep your pants up/skirt down. Period.

For you non-cheaters: Forgive all you want, but remember... that person cheated before. If you are gullible enough to believe they wont do it to you... well don't complain when they break your heart.

Take that!

Well said