@white_swan53 Said
I have often thought about what is referred to as 'good old fashioned values' , I was raised mostly by my dads parents and their idea of an 'unhappy kid' was one that wasn't doing something constructive and their was never any talk about allowance for chores , they stood firm on the concept that we had a roof over our heads , clothes on our backs and all we could eat 3 times a day and in return we were expected to help out around the place . My grand dad had an eagle eye for finding a chore for any kid he spotted that wasn't doing something.
Some kids today won't do anything without the promise of being paid an allowance . I have a niece that 'pays' her 3 kids each $20.00 a week for keeping their own rooms picked up and helping her do the light house work. And by helping her ,I mean they will only help her do something if she is doing some chore. They won't do the dishes or dust or yard work without a parent doing the same . It seems that this kind of thing is the 'norm' for families in my nieces ' neighborhood' .
My neices kids respond with disbelief and statements like 'slave drivers ' and ' that's just so very wrong' when they hear how their great grand parents thought an unhappy kids 'problem' was .
Your grandad was like an uncle I had who owned a neighboring farm. Our houses were close together. Too close. From his backyard he could see most of our back yard. If he saw me idling around, next thing I knew he was right there saying "hey Hop, give me a hand with something". That man just couldn't stand to see me without a hoe, spade or axe in my hands.
I was expected to do chores around the house and didn't see any money but I got everything I needed. Sometimes a relative or two would give me a bit of cash for my birthday or Christmas. When I got big enough to drive tractors and handle bales of hay I started hiring out to other farmers for cash.