Is it fair to arbitrarily increase punishment to your child?

Is it fair to arbitrarily increase punishment to your child?

If you were to tell your child that if he or she did a certain sin or mistake, you would implement a certain punishment, and when that infraction took place, you added a number of extra punishment, would you think you were acting in a fair and just manner?

A scenario would go like this.
If you told your son, if you do not make your bed, I will ground you for 2 days.
That same day, he did not or refused to make his bed.
You confront him and say that he is grounded for 2 days. At the same time, you tell him that he is also grounded for a further week and also looses all T V privileges and must also do the dishes for a month.

Do you think you have dealt fairly with your child?

Regards
DL

Nope. That's completely not fair and it teaches your child that you're basically a liar.

It is completely unfair. You can't say one thing and do the other. That's lying and you don't want your kid to copy that.

I think that when I increase punishment it has more to do with the atitude the child presents to me.

ie:
Make your bed or you'll get a time out (grounding over not making a bed is silly imo)

child does not make bed. I put them in time out.

If he/she doesn't sit in time out, or gives me lip or says "but I was gonna do it later" with a negative tone (every parent knows the tone, it's the Darlene from Roseanne show tone) then it might turn into a full grounding.

However, you just add on more punishment with no further infraction from the child, then yeah, that's so wrong.

I wouldnt even sweat it...only reason id get mad at my kid is if he/she got a girl pregnant, or got pregnant, or if they tried hard drugs

Grounding someone over a made bed is whack as hell...

you'd be surprised what you don't realize you have to punish a kid for.

My reasoning is, if it can hurt them worse than the punishment, I should punish them.