@chachi Said 
Guys always jokingly say, "I had all the sex I ever wanted, then I got married." It's a funny statement but there's also some truth behind it. But why does it have to be that way?
I have known my wife for nearly 13 years and I love her very much. We have a little 3 year old daughter and there never seems to be any "us" time anymore. We have always had a pretty healthy sex life but things have gotten rather cold over the last several years. I've tried talking to her about it but she never wants to address the topic. Then I get depressed. My buddies tell me that I should go have a fling with some girl.
What should I do?
Don't have all the facts at hand here, but maybe you can try to start 'dating' her all over again. Phone calls, flowers (if she's into that), find a sitter without her knowing and take her out to a restaurant or away for a weekend.
As I stated, I don't know all the facts or if these things will help any, but romancing her and showing her that you're still very attracted to her shouldn't hurt anything.
Good Luck! There may be many reasons she doesn't want to talk about it, maybe she's confused about this herself and feels ashamed and unattractive and many more possibilities. GENTLY is definitely the way to go.
If per chance you have decided to take the advice of people telling you to 'have a fling' then it tells me you've already decided to throw the towel in on this relationship and please have the common decency to tell her it's over before you decide to take your 'for lack of a better word' lust to another woman.
Jul 09, 2010 @ 01:31:13
My poor hubby 
