@magically_delicious Said
Well, I've never been one who concentrates on tact. I just call it how I see it. My parents are extremely co-dependant, and somehow that co-dependency turned into "love" I guess. My Dad cheated on my Mom multiple times, my Mom suffers from mild dementia to the point where she won't go to the grocery store or even put gas in her car. She needs my Dad to do everything for her, and so he does. Also Springer worthy material.
The difference being that I generally don't broadcast my parent's desperate relationship as true love on the internet. It's true co-dependency. They have problems, but they NEED each other because they can't thrive without the other. Yes they take romantic vacations and hold hands and snuggle, and I'm sure they have sex. But they spend all their time outside of that SCREAMING at each other or separated.
So, sorry I don't sugar coat things.
They haven't fought in years, I think it's because of my mom's sobriety and the time living apart has made them appreciate each other a lot more.
When they were sober together 12 years ago, they were picture perfect.
But when you put alcohol into the picture it f***s everything up.
So yes, they can be VERY good for each other.
But as long as one is sick, they can't be together for the welfare of all involved.
When I slammed in the door in my dad's face last Christmas eve eve, he finally got it that my mom and I miss him like hell and we do want him around.
I know that if he got his s*** together, we could all be together again, until then, they're married with the benefits of space.