@LuckyCharms Said
Actually you are a bit off the mark on that one. While real world validation is nice, it's not really what a person needs to feel good about themselves. Sometimes the world isn't a nice place. You won't get validation from them. The only person really capable of showing you your true worth is yourself. Which means you have to do things that make you feel good about yourself. Whether it's taking care of your personal responsibilities or helping others. Those are the two best ways to build self esteem and to really feel of value.
Right now you have this whole downward spiral of a negative internal dialogue going on. It feeds off of itself and you need to break the cycle. When you want people to put that validated stamp on your forehead it only feeds into your thoughts of being unable to do it yourself. The truth is that you can do it. You have just convinced yourself you can't.
What you need to do is tell that voice in your head to shut the hell up and do new things. As long as you listen to that voice you will continue in this pattern which will only work to increase your misery and self doubt.
Act outside of the box. Ignore your instincts if you have to. Train your mind to be kinder to yourself. Every time you have a negative thought about yourself make yourself stop and focus on something positive. Go for a walk, treat yourself to something pleasant, force yourself to find some positive aspects of yourself.
You obviously have to have some good traits. You need to find a way to find and nurture them.
I'm a bit frightened to give myself validation, because I see people deluding themselves about their abilities everyday. Not everyone is inaccurate in their self-perceptions, but a lot seem to be.
In my view, unless you have looks or intelligence (preferably both) what is the point of the other traits? People will look at you negatively regardless.
I think I have some Depersonalization, and some Derealization going on as well, which compounds the problem, and further skews my perceptions. So, I think you already know to take my posts with a grain of salt.
You mentioned, that many individuals I have known would give anything to trade places with me. Thing is, I would give anything to switch places with *some* of them.
Anyway, despite all that nonsensical jargon I just typed, I will attempt your suggestions.