THE RULES OF DEALING WITH BULLIES ON THE INTERNET
The Number One rule for dealing with this type of behavior is: don't respond and don't engage. This is not as easy to do as it sounds. It's a natural response to want to defend yourself.
However, never argue with a serial bully; it's not a mature adult discussion, but like dealing with a child or immature teenager; while the serial bully may be an adult on the outside, on the inside they are like a child who's never grown up - and probably never will.
The second rule is to keep all abusive emails. Create a new folder, perhaps called "Abuse", and move hate mail and flame mail into this folder. You don't have to read it.
When the time comes to take action, this folder of hate mail and flame mail is your evidence.
Bullies, especially cyberbullys, are obsessive people and if their account is closed down you may start receiving mail from another address.
This can later be compared to the abusive emails you've already received to identify the perpetrator. You'll find the same words, phrases and strategies occurring.
The third rule is to understand bullying, understand the profile of the serial bully.
Rule four is get help. If you're a young person, this is essential. Even mature experienced adults often cannot handle bullying and harassment by themselves. Sometimes you are dealing with a severely disordered and dangerous individual.
Rule five is become alert to provocation. It could be called "The Baiting Game". A provocative comment is made and those who respond spontaneously in irritation are then encouraged to engage in conflict with those who respond without irritation.
The provoker watches, waits and stirs the pot with the occasional additional provocation. What is interesting is the sense of gratification that a provoker gains from watching others indulge in destructive interaction initiated by him- or herself.
In this context, gratification is a perverse form of satisfaction akin to, but distinct from, pleasure.
The sixth rule is become an observer. Although you may be the target of the cyberbully's anger, you can train yourself to act as an observer. This takes you out of the firing line and enables you to study the perpetrator and collect evidence.
When people use bullying behaviors they project their own weaknesses, failings and shortcomings on to others. In other words, they are telling you about themselves by fabricating an accusation based on something they themselves have done wrong.
Whenever you receive a flame mail or hate mail, train yourself to instinctively ask the question, "What is this person revealing about themselves this time?"
The seventh rule is decide if you want to take action, and if so, prepare carefully and strike hard. Sometimes refusing to respond and engage will result in the cyberbully losing interest and going off to find someone easier to torment.
Sometimes though, especially if there has been interaction in the past, the cyberbully is so obsessed that s/he cannot and will not let go. You will have to make that person let go, but only through swift, hard, legal action, and only when the time is right. Don't deal with the abuser yourself, use a third party such as a solicitor.