@antosco Said
After my first date who I didn' reall like that much I have not see any one again. The reason is this my 1st date was not based on luv i only got involved with him because i needed comfort and was young and naive at d time. I was an in door type on exposure I was vulnerable. He betrayed me and i broke up ever then any guy comin around I say 'am not interested' If they claim they luv me i believ luv is frm the heart, but I dnt feel same way for them.
The kind of guy am lookin for is one that will change my emotions when I SEe him -reciprocity (that's the way luv should feel). But hav never felt that for any guy.
Is there anything as love?
You mean you feel that the boys you've met don't reciprocate as much back as you invest towards them?
Sometimes it is a matter of applying enough benefit of the doubt to analyse them long enough to see how they might reciprocate in a different way from what you're expecting.
For instance, part of the way that I demonstrate my love for my moochers is not giving her an earful back when she talks down to me.
And obviously I cannot say - Oh, she loves/ 'does not love' because she never/does talk down to me too.
Instead I watch and wait...
...and then I take notice as the night air grows colder...
...she brings me a hot drink and shuts the windows and door to my man cave to warm me up...
...and that is how I know despite the other aspects that may not be as easy for her to show.