@kaydoh Said
Like most people my age I have had my share of relationships, most have been quite long, a couple of years here, three years there and the longest one eight years plus some fun times in between.
I never had a problem getting back on the horse so to speak, you live, learn and move on.
Now though it's just different. I've been single for two years and it's been my own choice to be so. I just don't have the drive to put myself through the heartache of another relationship. It's not as though I am pining after any past relationship or anything like that. They are all ex's for a reason and I have no regrets about ending those relationships.
I wouldn't say I never get lonely, I do sometimes. Occasionaly we all need some love and support but by and large I just can't get my head around being with someone again but at the same time don't want to end up a lonely miserable old hag.
I find myself not taking the effort with my appearance that I have always done in the past and I think that's a conscious decision to not make myself look too attractive as I can't be doing with fending people off.
I know I need to sort myself out. I just don't no where to start.
How do I get my bounce back and start thinking more positevly about men and relationships??
I know exactly what you mean, I'm in a similar situation. Atm I am largely unexcited about dating, but I'm sure that's a temporary state of mind. It's a self - protective mechanism for many. Let's face it, after you have had your lion's share of disappointments, it's easy to get a little jaded.
Now that I have 20 years of dating under my belt, I'm starting to understand that love, in fact, doesn't change everything, doesn't fix all your problems. Dating was a lot more exciting to me when I was in my 20's, & thought love was the cure-all for everything. Now that I'm more realistic about life, love, and men, dating doesn't hold the huge romantic appeal it did for me.
Technically my realism should help me to better find the guy I'm suited to. I wouldn't say no to it if it came along, but for the moment, I'm too exhausted to go searching for him. I still adore men -I think they are fantastic creatures - but because they aren't on a pedastal for me anymore, I guess I'm searching for different ways to be happy.