@BelindaJones Said
You have got to be kidding me? in todays day and age and with all the education out there you have to ask that question? He did not just turn gay he IS gay, he was born that way, no matter how hard he tries to fight it no matter how hard you want to deny it HE IS GAY. Live with it
I agree with you, but I saw the OP's post differently. I didn't get the impression she was hoping he wasn't gay, or trying to deny it - she no longer has contact with him. I think that she is just questioning how it's possible for someone she thought was heterosexual - and who purported to be heterosexual, to actually be gay. Whatever way you look at it, the guy she was dating was not honest with her 100%. I can totally understand her confusion as she tries to reconcile who he is with what he seemed to be.
Unless you have gay male friends or personal experience in this, I think it's easy for heterosexual women to assume they may have played some part in the dramatic change in status quo. I agree it is their lack of understanding, but I don't think that's their fault. If you are dating a guy who purports to be straight, it's a dilemma you don't prepare yourself for.
I think some women in these situations believe that somehow, they were the catylyst in the guy coming out, and they are usually very hurt by that. My 2 female friends who this has happened to had great sex lives with their exes both who are now gay. Both girls said to me on seperate occasions "Maybe I wasn't attractive enough. Maybe my body wasn't attractive enough." Both were also very hurt by what felt like betrayal to them. It was like they suddenly didn't know the guys they had loved at all.