why cant he make up his mind??

Sometimes people do change, some for better, some for worse. Do you have any idea what brought this on?

no clue, except for the fact that he does not like change..and i think life for him is changing around him like it normally does and he does not want to accept it..

Maybe he's just happy with his bubble and scared of change then? Either way, he needs to keep with life. If not you need to let go of him before you get brought down with him.

thats what i think...

good luck.

Thank you

Yeah...sounds like my ex-husband...never could hold a job, lazy a** MFer...I know you think that 5 years is a long time...and it is...but in the grand scheme of things it is just the blink of an eye...

Please, do yourself a favor and do not settle for this guy...you are so young...go out and find someone new...and believe me if you decide that he really IS the one for you...well I bet you will find him doing the same thing he always has and I am certain he will be more than happy to take you back...

What you don't want in a man is to be his mommy or his entire world...both suck and you will regret it in the long run.

As far as the emotional abuse...that will not change...you have to either love them the way they are or leave them alone...

Good luck!

many great points made..thank you

I'm so glad that someone else has this problem.
- I think it's men and boys. I had this problem this week it was 'i'm not sure' I think it's time he needs. I'm scared because we're going to university next year as you are in collage now.. :/