Confidence -SELF Esteem

Hello Everyone
i have been facing the Problem Of lacking Confidence since last 6-8 months .Im 20 years Old and its very difficult for me to talk with peoples .,i always think that the Person whom im going to talk with ,will insults me .,or ignore me .

Hello and welcome to TFS....No chance getting ignored on here

Welcome, and troops is right!!! Heck troops and I just might bother the hell out of you all day, just so you know you are loved and welcome here

She ain't kidding.....RUN

Hope you meet some very outgoing and self-esteem boosting people here!!!

I second that!

time to boost the self esteem again, by bumpimg this thread to the top!!! Well get more peps to say waht up in just a sec

First Of all Thnanks to all members For encouraging me alot .Now im going to discuss my few prbolems ,hope u guyz will help me .
First I always feel hesitate to talk with someone because i always think that person infront of me is thinking bad about me .

2)Forget 1st Point .,Now im going to start talking with a person and if he ignores me then i feel very bad .

3)i excessively concerned about what other people think of me .

4 )If i throw a jOke at public ..,and i dont get any response .,then i feel very embrassing .

5)sometimes i forget these all things and start conversation with a person .,then my voice dont support me .i try my best to speak in a good voice .,but sometimes i speak loudly and sometime in a slow tone. and this situation is very very embrassing .

im soo confident at my home .,but infront of my frnds ,Relaties cousins .,im too un-confident .

i hope u all will help me

I might mock you and show you that being mocked isn't the end of world. Hopefully that would help you.

That is a lot of problem with a lot of people, you will just have to ignore those people who insult you, and just brush aside those who ignore you

ive been in the same situation since i was 12 and been like that till 18 ...

All i can say is you will grow out of it ... you may not believe this now but you.. I was told the same quote and shrugged with disbelief.

You just gotta realize everyone in life will have an opinion on everyone they meet, you have to know that if they have a negative opinion then it has no value to you.. because no one can tell you who you are. only god can judge as he sees all and feels all and can make a true judgement. So basically if someone thinks or says something negative, it should not matter because it may not be true as he does not know you.

Write down a list of qualities you know about urself (positive) and focus on them. You gotta trust your own opinion on ur personality cos only u know urself. Thats assumed your a good natured person with your morals straight..

Are you getting sucked into society's view on people and how u should act? Set your own path and do what is right not because someone expect you to..

Thats how i got into this little cycle.. trying to be someone that society accepts .. By this i lost myself and become like every stupid girl out their...

I actually suggest getting some kind of book or self hypnosis cds to help boost your self confidence they help alot i went through the same thing for a few years now im alot better so go try it