@Amorous_Guardian Said Later in life after marriage and children, I stumbled upon a man who became my best friend and lover. I believe in my heart that he is my true soulmate. The love of my life. Things were complicated on both sides, but I've never felt more connected to another human being. We ended our affair 4 months ago, mutually trying to do what's best.
There hasn't been a day go by in 4 months that I haven't thought about him. Sometimes is harder than others. I'm a wife and a mother and I'm really trying to enjoy my life... but somehow I can't move on. I cannot get past this man.
I still cry myself to sleep almost every night... every thing I see reminds me of him... smells, tastes, sounds... almost every song I hear reminds me of him.
How do you erase someone from your memory? How do you give up something that your soul longs for?
He has moved on... he has found someone else, so divorcing and going to him is not an option.
I just need to know how to move on, and make new happy memories with my husband ... can I fall back in love with my husband after having an affair and giving my heart to someone else?
I suppose this heartbreak is well deserved for what I did... and I suppose that if I live in pain everyday for the rest of my life, it will be the punishment for what I did.
I believe it is different for everyone, but I too went through a similar situation. I meet someone, and had an affair. Timeis the only thing that heals. Can you fall back in love with your husband? That is entirely up to you. the question is/should be: Do you want to fall back in love with your husband? Only you can answer that, but if your answer is NO, then do what is best for everyone and divorce, it is not fair to keep someone in a marriage if you can;t return the love. If the answer is Yes, then may I suggest start with some counsiling, and go from there, some thing lead you to the arms of another man, you need to evalute what that was, and move forward from there.