@harrie85 Said Sounds like you do really care for her but that fact your relationship isnt fresh and full of dates and passion anymore is getting you down, try injecting a bit of that vigor back in before you give up on the relationship. Try and remember the last time you were really happy together...did you go out somewhere special or have a nice meal then surprise her by recreating that time. If it still doesnt work talk to her dont necisarily say tou dont love her just that your worried that your relationship is loosing its spice and maybe you can decide to makesure you go and do something together once a fourtnight or something. It may turn out you still feel you want out but a good relationship is hard to find and you would be doing yourself an injustice not to give it one last try. The course of love never runs smooth but try and make the best of the times you cherish! good luck and i hope it works out for the best for you...whatever that might be.
It's possible to care about someone and genuinely love them but not be in love with them. If he feels this way and is really questioning things then that is a relationship that is not going to work. No one should have to stay in a relationship where they are not truly happy because they are afraid of hurting the other person.
It's sickening to see one person sticking in a relationship that their heart isn't in. It's only going to prolong the pain that will inevitably come.
And the fact that this isn't the first time he has had these feelings really shows that he isn't in love. And that adding a bit more 'spice' is just prolonging something that isn't going to work.
I would recommend he end it on as nice of terms as possible. She is going to be devastated and heart broken, but she will eventually feel better. And if he does step away and take some time apart, he will have the opportunity to see how he really feels.