@kimo Said No it can't be fair - the way it is set up now.
What is needed is the lawyers to be called in BEFORE the marriage.
Everyone should be REQUIRED to have a Pre-Nup - so then there isn't this nonsense about it being non-romantic. Then it's just has to be done.
Then the pre-nup should be set up like those living wills - where every possible situation has a thought out conclusion...like this:
If we have ONE kid - it will be mine.
If we have TWO kids, I will take the first one - you have the second one...
If I make money during the marriage, it goes into MY account.
If you make money during the marriage, it goes into YOUR account.
We will use a separate account to pay bills from...
ETC.
The key is to get the lawyers involved BEFORE not AFTER.
Also - I actually think this will help people in several ways:
1. They will know what the real consequences of divorce will be. And they will really have to think twice before doing it.
2. If they do go thru with it, then there will be a lot less angst because the plan will eliminate the unknown which is such a killer of spirit and happiness.
3. The kids will have a much less painful time because they will have parents who cared enough to think things thru before getting deeply involved. Also - if there is a divorce, their parents will be more emotionally stable because of number 2 - the unknown is less daunting.
KimO.
Thats a rediculous idea. The real world isnt like that. All you get from a pre-nup is proof of no trust.
After all, youd only be out to look after yourself. Thats completely the opposite to what marriage is about.