@goddessnoire Said It's not about just a random person, even if a friend were to refer to me as a chocolate anything, I would be offended. Why refer to skin color at all? Does it make you more comfortable to mask an inherently racist agenda by saying someone's skin color looks like the color of your favorite desert. Depending on the context everyone is going to take something differently i suppose. I'm not saying riot over stupid comments nor am i saying the kid should have been hung from the highest post for saying what he said, but i most certainly wouldn't call my white friends vanilla cupcakes or vanilla lattes.
I understand why you don't agree that its an appropreate thing to say but to be blunt people that get called chocolate cake/vanilla icecream etc that get offended... are seriously weak minded and touchy. People need to act more grown up... a little child calling a black person a chocolate cake is not a crisis... EXPLAINING to the kid that SOME black people would be offended should resolve the problem - if not further mild punishment could trigger the boy/girls mind that it is not something to do.
In one way, calling someone a desert could be a compliment... it could be a metephor describing you as a sweet person that alot of people like!
A way to advance from this racism in the world is to be offended by those with DIRECT meaning to offend racist comments and violence.
Little kids who call ppl chocolate cakes is not a target you should be trying to eliminate. The kid can be dealt with the way a kid would be dealt with if he say drew a picture on the wall in crayons.
For another example that i have come across and analysed:
I say that black people are usually better at sports because of their natural muscle that can more easily grow - which increased strength. It's not racist to say that back hundreds of years the black people in africa worked harder as its a harder environment to live in with predetors etc - around 30% of black people in my country would prob accuse me of being racist just for saying that comment. Some black people think that any dicsussion that individualates blacks from whites is racist - ITS NOT. FACT we are different colors its the bahaviour to each other that needs to be dealt. Whites to black... KKK members - even black gangs in the street tend to pick on white people, iv seen that many times.
It needs to be sorted out civilly.
Thats unlikely to havven if the word racist is degraded so.