i thought i was the only "non" mom to feel this way at work. but i guess i'm not. Most of the women where i work at are Moms or Moms to be. Those of us, who have chosen to be single, or decided not to have children seem have become the minority.
Whenever "we" put in for vacation, it has to be "approved", or i have to check on the days to see if other "can swap" with me.
But when a "mother" wants to take time off, be with the family, there's no question - and of course, "we" have to not only hold down the fort, but do so for the vacationer.
Whenever i sit down with a "mom" the first question if she doesn't know me is: "Do you have any kids?"
If you don't, and you talk about motorcycles, sky diving, hiking,different cultures, geographics, geology, quantum physics, skiing iceskating, great books, documentaries, current events, famous poets, amazing chemists, new discoveries, Health and fitness - well, her eye glaze over.
if they are in a group: don't bring up any of those subjects, or they will give you the "group eye-glaze".
It's okay if you talk about guys. that's partially acceptable. And if any of the moms has a son - guess where the conversation goes back to.
When i'm at the gym, i see that "stare" when a well-kept female walks in and turns heads. and i hear this a lot: "i bet she's never been pregnant."
Or when a woman is in power, and doesn't play politics: "Somebody needs to get her pregnant - that'll slow her down." I'm not kidding, i've heard this amongst women.
Lastly, i was told, "You're not a 'real woman' until you've given birth.
I have a litter of racoons that live around our house. Yep, the mother gave birth. That doesn't make her a 'real racoon'. Any mammal can lay down and have offspring. But does it make her less than because they've decided to take a route of education, or other pursuits?