@Jennifer1984 Said
Sexual politics..... sexual politics..... can't moooooooooooove for the sexual politics.
A 42 year old married female has no idea what the hetero female view is..???
As you declined to clarify on any of the points raised regarding your previous message, except to re-iterate that you consider bi's to be getting a bad deal I'll have to make my own judgement on what I think you meant. I'll keep that on the back burner for now though.
Yeah, bi's do tend to get overlooked a tad but then again, In my experience I've found that they tend not to push themselves to the front of the debate.
From Monday to Friday, bi's can play at the dutiful housewife with hubby at home and 2.4 children to tuck safely into bed at night and then play the swinger at weekends, hitting the scene and finding a playmate to satisfy their "other" desires. But hey.... that's cool. It falls into the consensual... non-shaming.... etc, etc, etc.
If lesbians tend to look down on them it's mostly because they're the ones most likely to have the truly promiscuous behaviour patterns that then get attached to us all. Husband for security, children and respectability. A casual weekend pickup or swinger lifestyle for no-strings fun. And it's the lesbians who get the label stuck on them. Not fair.
It's true that a lot of lesbians see them as "not being the real deal".... treating other women as playthings to be picked up and put down according to their whim and fancy then going home to hubby when they've had their fun.
Now of course, that too is stereotyping and while it may have a certain general credibility, it isn't absolutely true. That is a given and I've argued that point in LGBT forums.... and taken some hits for daring to say so, I can tell you..!!
Bi's tend to keep away from the political struggles too. They leave the getting down and fighting for our rights to the lesbians.... the ones who take the hits on the front line while the Bi's sit back and put on their happily married wife and mum face and avoid the flak.
Me...? I urge everybody with an interest in LGBT matters to get involved.
I know this all comes over as being an "Us and Them" situation, but I'm afraid that for all the advances we have made, there is still a lot of that about. I wish it were not so, but it is and it has to be challenged wherever it is seen or even perceived.
So. To get back to the topic once more..... I'll ask you again, but perhaps a little more specifically. What is the sexual attitude of the average 42 year old hetero married female...?
Specific enough..?
You sound like a very bitter person; one who, tries her best to come across as respectful (or at least to suggest she is such) But goes out of her way to carefully choose her words to be anything but. As though you have some special 'right' to be a jerk.