Wait!!! We can talk about this!!!! DON'T GOOOOOOOOOOOOO
*Peeks out from behind potted plant.*
Coming in late here but I think its nuanced.
I try and live by the principle of charity when it comes to conversation. I always interpret what someone has said in the best possible light. I think it's important to easily forgive small errors and problems with what people say. People shoot from the hip when talking and its' unfair to expect nobody to ever say anything even slightly unacceptable.
When I make mistakes like that I expect to be lightheartedly corrected and then I apologise, correct my behaviour and i've learned something new.
Like when I grew up using the word 'retard' as an insult was just really common and normal, i carried that a little longer than I should have and was happy to stop using it when I learned it offended people and why.
In saying all that, there is also a real dismissal of actual overt racism, in a way the new racism seems to be in the denial that there is any racism in the world anymore and that all accusations of racism are over the top responses from crazy sensitive liberals.... no, that isn't the case. There is plenty of racism around and we need to walk the line between addressing it and judging and policing everyone.
I couldn't help but read this all in Steven's voice in my head.
But you bring up some really good points. I think it's ridiculous how it seems so easy to offend people nowadays when you don't even mean to. That being said, it's not like there's not some messed-up stuff still going on that needs to be addressed either.