@Conflict Said
I don't need to have my own children to know what I'm referring to. I can relate to the topic in financial terms that are absolutely credible.
Let's take someone who leaves school early for instance. Later on, if he or she goes through the adult education system, said person can attain a level of excellence similar to, or better than his or her children. Then, he or she can have kids, and together, both parents and children will be able to bond well. I don't know this sadly, as more than one person whose parents were not on their level has told me that their parents did not encourage them during their post secondary school studies.
That is what I meant by oppressive or parochial. I have seen what pain can do to people who are not encouraged. It is a consequence of the parents not being able to value what their children are doing due to not having the sensibility to admire academic things, because they can't meet their children on their level. Imagine how this must have made those young people feel.
Well...then you're talking about parents relating to their children out of shared experience and encouraging them in their endeavors. Yeah...that's pretty basic common sense and not really breaking any new ground.
But you made your first post about spending money which is something entirely different. Investing time and experience is not the same thing and doesn't have to have anything at all to do with money.
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Parents and children must be even, or at the very least, there shouldn't be a gulf between them idea in terms of cerebral or moral development. There is no excuse for not bettering your finnancial situation before you have kids. The time to do it can be made and I feel that it must be, to avoid a conflict between parents and their children.
This is exactly what I'm talking about when I say that people who don't have children do not know what they're talking about when they talk about having children. There, by necessity, absolutely is a gulf between parents and children in cerebral and moral development. Because a parent is an adult and child is a child who is dependent on that adult to foster and foment that cerebral and moral development. And hopefully, that parent wants the child to
become at least his or her intellectual, moral equal, but it absolutely
cannot, by design be that way until the child is also an adult. If a child likes his or her parents all the time, the parents are not doing their jobs correctly. Sometimes, actually yes, the parents in fact do know what's best for the child and have to teach the child in ways that the child will not like. It's an act of selfish cruelty to do otherwise all the time.
I'm sorry, you're just wrong on that. And it's not just me saying so, pretty much the entirety of modern psychology vehemently disagrees with you.
I agree you should better your financial situation before you have kids, which is why I have a problem with you saying people should spend money all on themselves while they can instead of planning for a better life for their children. That is, after all, what you said in your first post. You're all over the place here. So which is it?
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And even if trouble doesn't arise between parents and their children, to be of a certain standard, even if the children do better than their parents will eliminate the concept of one generation outdoing the other because the previous one couldn't be bothered to do more for itself.
I have no idea what you're trying to say here. I will say though that trouble absolutely, most certainly, undoubtedly, without fail, invariably WILL arise between parents and their children. It's not just certain, it's certain for a reason. Because it's healthy and necessary.