@MainerMikeBrown Said
Over the years I've worked with many psychotherapists in my battle with mental illness. And while many of them have given me a new perspective by giving me advice that I had never thought of, I've found that some other therapists state the obvious way too much.
For example, I've had some therapists tell me that if someone is rude to me and others, maybe they're just having a bad day, and that it's nothing personal. And people who hurt others have come from unhappy backgrounds.
Well gee, I could have gotten the same type of advice talking to Joe Blow on the street!
When I see a therapist, I expect them to give me advice that either I've never heard before, or give me advice that I've heard before, but worded in a different way.
What do I mean?
Instead of a therapist telling me that it's,"nothing personal," a therapist telling me that when someone is rude to you doesn't mean the person hates you or is trying to hurt you. It means the same thing, but it's worded in a way that I've never heard before, which for me is a lot more effective that a therapist stating the obvious.
It's nothing personal? A therapist is telling you this? So basically it's okay if they treat you like s*** (rude) because they are having a bad day, and it's nothing personal?
Let me tell you. It doesn't get any MORE personal. When a person is rude, directly to another. It doesn't get any more personal than that.
So they are having a bad day. What happened to growing the f*** up, and biting back on their anger, and treating others who have nothing to do with their freaking "bad day", with the respect they deserve?
I would get my money back from these "therapists". It would be one thing if they told you that some people are immature selfish babies, who take out their frustrations on others because they've never learnt to deal with their frustrations. And for you to try to not let it get to you, or to ruin your day.
That. Is the more likely scenario anyway. And the best advice because of it.
But their advice?? Wow.
Your next session, pick up the nearest ashtray or candy dish and smash it against the wall. When the therapist looks shocked tell him or her that you are just having a bad day, it's nothing "personal".