How easily it is to forgive

Or isn't it?

it is not easy

It honestly depends.
I'm one of the most forgiving people I know, and I tend to put a lot of thought into choosing my battles. Usually when someone makes a mistake or does me wrong in any way, a genuine apology is enough for me and I'll respond with "No worries. Lets move on"
If they weren't serious when they apologized, it usually becomes evident later and then the trust issues start to arise.

That's a fact.

Do you learn to trust?

i am not sure we talking about forgiving someone who is mental illness, or forgiving someone, in general. there is a difference.

it depend on how much you are hurt by someone. if it too painfully to forgive at that moment. if you every can forgive that person. sometimes, the damage of situation especially if you are young. can effect you for rest your life. it can scare you for life. confrontation and talking to the one that hurts you. it is a major step to solve the situation. it does hurt because of the pain, it huge relief when you can forgive. sometime, you can't forgive sometimes you just have to walk away forever. you have face the situation first.

For what?

Are you talking about forgiving people for what they do to you on a personal level?

Or forgiving people for committing horrific wrongs against people or peoples?

For me, I have found forgiveness to be easier than not forgiving.




Embrace the guidance of your messiah. Once you do that, forgiveness comes easy.

When learning to trust is called for

from my personal experiences, easy to forgive than forget. in time, you can forgive someone, but sometimes hard to forget.

Depends on lots of things. What it is you are forgiving or not forgiving, the intent behind that action, the person doing it.

I'd be more forgiving of a nine year old lying to me about taking a cookie than I would about an adult lying to me about taking my money from me.

I'd also be more easily forgiving of someone standing me up because they genuinely forgot than I would if they remembered and just didn't bother to show or let me know they weren't going to be there.

Agree!
Intent has a lot to do with it.

I can forgive someone for being ignorant.
I can forgive someone for being stupid.

But if someone does me, or others harm out of willful intent, that would take a lot more to get over.

And a flaccid "I'm sorry, I'll go to therapy/rehab" doesn't cut it.

In the Public Media Outrage world we live in, an "I'm Sorry" is probably more of an "I'm Sorry ( that I got caught )" than a real apology for the meaning behind their actions.

I don't think you can just kick yourself in the butt and forgive. I think you have to be emotionally ready to forgive.