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Pros and Cos of NOT having children
Growing up with a not so great mother, I'm not really fond on the idea of having children. Maybe not so much fond of the idea, but it's scary. Because what if I end up not being able to care for them? What if I don't like them? And I will argue to the death with anyone who says that parents love their children naturally, because I know that's a bullsh*t lie.
This is sort of an ongoing thing with my girlfriend because she REALLY wants children (she is a bit older then I am) but I don't right now. I have a good job, make good money, we rent to own a nice house, and things are pretty smooth. But I don't think (well, I'm sure I know if I'm having doubts) that's mentally ready for kids. I'm only 20... Maybe when I'm older, but then she has this ticking biological clock thing going on that she can't let go of.
So I sort of suggested maybe adopting one that's going to have s***ty life and we could turn it around, and she looked at me like I was a f***ing idiot. Oookay then.
I don't think it's something (I hope?) we'll break up over, but I'm not entirely sure how to deal with it. I get paranoid sometimes that she will stop the birth control and have an "oops" moment, even though we have agreed to wait for now.
I know what sort of parent I'd LIKE to be, but I'm not sure if I'm capable. And it's not like you can say "Well, I suck at this. Where's the return packaging for it?"
I can wing of a ton of cons (sleep, social life, money, time, perverts, death, no sports car (get rid of my two door car?!, etc) but I don't know how much of that really matters if or once you have a kid. Do they wipe it all away when you hold it, or do you regret it? I guess that's up to the individual. I can't really say any pros because I am sans kids.
So much work just thinking about having kids. Oui...
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