@someone_else_again Said
Explain trance words to me then please.
What I mean by snake oil salesman is someone who just wants to sell something. I'm not talking about a sales assistant in a shop that you've willingly gone into, I'm talking about someone approaching you about something that they want you to buy.
Isnt that what a shop assistant does? Ive known a slaes man who can turn a "Im not interested" into a "I will sign the family up", thats where my imagining people as talking chickens comes into play by the way. Im not talking about talking to a mundane person. Im on about talking to successful people who are good at what they do.
Anyway as for trance words. Basically when you speak to someone, they will probably have one or two words they use a lot like they might say "I love blanh blah blah, I really love blah blah blah and I love doing blah blah activity".
SO the trance word there is "love". Use that word you will make a connection. I have a work collegue who to be honest is an ignorant prick. Like today he was gobbing off at the manager insisting he was in the right even though he was in the wrong (customer complaint, phone call was recorded, but he still insisted).
I know that talking to this person is an absalute pain in the butt. But through techniques like trance words and other NLP techniques. I can genrally build rapport with him and get tasks completed, which otherwise would never get done or he would just bully other people into doing them.
Also angry customers, who just want to shout and scream, instead of explaining the problem so I can get it resolved.
So again, are trance words really deceitful.
Sure I know they can be used in other ways, but Im not talking about that purpose. You mentioned civil dialogue. SO I am just putting my views out on how I would make a civil conversation with someone who by rights I shouldnt be able to talk to due to personality clashes.