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scardycat On May 17, 2014




, Australia
#31New Post! Nov 24, 2012 @ 09:38:23
The bullying is out there and my daughter has been a victim. She was playing hand ball with another girl against 2 boys. The boys lost so this one boy pushed my daughter from behind and she hit a wooden post face first. Nearly broke her nose, gave her black eyes, marked her face, scabbed her knees and sprained her wrist. The boy was question by the school he said it was an accident even though others said it was done on purpose the school didnt do anything. She was removed from that school asap. She soon learnt after that she has to stand up for herself and now she does she stands up to the bullys. And when they say thing to her or her friends they all stand up against the bully. They also learnt the block feature on FB is a great invention and now they use it when needed.
I have pics sorry there a bit dark she was then 13yrs

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white_swan53 On March 19, 2020




n/a, New Mexico
#32New Post! Nov 24, 2012 @ 09:48:35
First thing , Parents need to teach their kids that it's not what others think of them that makes them who they are.
That there will always be bullies ' in this world that need to make others feel s***ty in order for them(the bully) to feel better and that is the bullies problem . The next thing parents need to teach their kids is that they are to come to the parent with whatever is going on before it gets to the point of 'no return'.
Will this stop bullies from existing ? NO.
There always has been and always will be bullies. It's the love and support that a kid being bullied has in his/her corner ,that will make the difference between life or death .
Bullies run in packs, they need a bunch of 'sheep' that will follow their lead . A bully will never step up and face someone toe to toe, 'bully' is just another word for 'chicken s*** wuss ' .
With there being 15 teen suicide and it's a known fact that they happened because of bullies , the cops should have ,by now, the names and addresses and know the faces on sight of every bully in their jurisdiction . if they don't then that district needs to do some housecleaning down at the cop shop and get rid of the keystone cops and get some professional trained law enforcement in their.
white_swan53 On March 19, 2020




n/a, New Mexico
#33New Post! Nov 24, 2012 @ 10:03:00
@scardycat Said

The bullying is out there and my daughter has been a victim. She was playing hand ball with another girl against 2 boys. The boys lost so this one boy pushed my daughter from behind and she hit a wooden post face first. Nearly broke her nose, gave her black eyes, marked her face, scabbed her knees and sprained her wrist. The boy was question by the school he said it was an accident even though others said it was done on purpose the school didnt do anything. She was removed from that school asap. She soon learnt after that she has to stand up for herself and now she does she stands up to the bullys. And when they say thing to her or her friends they all stand up against the bully. They also learnt the block feature on FB is a great invention and now they use it when needed.
I have pics sorry there a bit dark she was then 13yrs

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This was an out and out attack . It wasn't a bully harassing her day after day making her suffer from insults and death wishes.
If all the boy who done this to her got was ,questioned by the school , then her attacker got off Scott free. What else did you do about her being attacked, like that , other then to take her out of that school ? Him being an under aged minor , you can't go say or do anything directly to him , and suing him or his parents for medical costs wouldn't get s*** . But he needs to know that it's not a free ride when he lays his hands on another person with out their consent especially in anger .
scardycat On May 17, 2014




, Australia
#34New Post! Nov 24, 2012 @ 10:13:17
@white_swan53 Said

This was an out and out attack . It wasn't a bully harassing her day after day making her suffer from insults and death wishes.
If all the boy who done this to her got was ,questioned by the school , then her attacker got off Scott free. What else did you do about her being attacked, like that , other then to take her out of that school ? Him being an under aged minor , you can't go say or do anything directly to him , and suing him or his parents for medical costs wouldn't get s*** . But he needs to know that it's not a free ride when he lays his hands on another person with out their consent especially in anger .


He had given her heaps before hand teasing, internet bullying, spreading rumours and threats. This went of for months before she said something to me. We did report him to the school as soon as I found out and he was spoken too. It did settle for about a week and then this happened. When she went back a couple of days later he told her next time he will make sure he brakes her nose. The next day I removed her from that school.
white_swan53 On March 19, 2020




n/a, New Mexico
#35New Post! Nov 24, 2012 @ 10:24:34
@scardycat Said

He had given her heaps before hand teasing, internet bullying, spreading rumours and threats. This went of for months before she said something to me. We did report him to the school as soon as I found out and he was spoken too. It did settle for about a week and then this happened. When she went back a couple of days later he told her next time he will make sure he brakes her nose. The next day I removed her from that school.




Well gosh, do ya think you left out a lot of details ,most of the story and about 98 % of facts in your post with the pics ?

All you did was report that boy to the school ? Even after he had been after your kid for months like that ? I'm going to step back and walk away from this thread .
scardycat On May 17, 2014




, Australia
#36New Post! Nov 24, 2012 @ 10:36:53
@white_swan53 Said

Well gosh, do ya think you left out a lot of details ,most of the story and about 98 % of facts in your post with the pics ?

All you did was report that boy to the school ? Even after he had been after your kid for months like that ?


yes I was wrong the way I dealt with the situation. She finally did tell me what was going on and she blamed herself believing it was her fault he was doing this to her.
Yes I did go to the police after this bashing happened but it was her word against his because there was no back up from the school at all they said it was an accident even though others who were there said it wasnt.
I am much more aware after this happened of what can go on in the school yard.
I would have acted earlier if I had known. My topic wasnt about my daughter been bullyed its about her friends that have commited suicide.
I felt I had to prove to some by telling my story with pics thats its out there and its bad
white_swan53 On March 19, 2020




n/a, New Mexico
#37New Post! Nov 24, 2012 @ 12:17:48
@scardycat Said

yes I was wrong the way I dealt with the situation. She finally did tell me what was going on and she blamed herself believing it was her fault he was doing this to her.
Yes I did go to the police after this bashing happened but it was her word against his because there was no back up from the school at all they said it was an accident even though others who were there said it wasnt.
I am much more aware after this happened of what can go on in the school yard.
I would have acted earlier if I had known. My topic wasnt about my daughter been bullyed its about her friends that have commited suicide.
I felt I had to prove to some by telling my story with pics thats its out there and its bad




Correct me if I'm wrong , but would it be her word with pictures of her injuries, against his word that she had been attacked ? I don't know how it works where you are but the witnesses statements would have been taken by the cops and presented in court by the DA, They wouldn't have brought a bunch of minors in to testify in a assault and batteries case . Since he was doing that to your girl , it's anyones guess how many other kids are dealing with the same s*** from him .
This is from your OP

Quote:
How are we going to stop this from happening? Closing FB pages slows it down but most kids these days have phones and we just cant stop it down the street.
These kids that push there victims to suicide should be accountable for there actions and should be punished by the law.
Everyday a child is bullied and many take there life because they cant handle it anymore.
Not only does it affect the family it affects there friends and the locals but strangers in fact these deaths affect everyone.
I tell you nothing is worse then going to a funeral of child for any reason especially because of someone elses actions
Something has to be done to stop it....


If this wasn't such a serious topic I wouldn't be raking your words over the coals like this . But , If your not part of the solution then your part of the problem . You say you realize you handled your daughters attacker wrong. Your still alive and kicking and I'm betting he's still alive and being a bully. It maybe be past the time limit (if there is one ) to make him accountable for his actions and see that he's punished by the law, but it's not to late to bring his actions to the notice of other parents and the law enforcement so maybe some one else daughter won't have to be one of his victims.
You can't just start bad mouthing him to anyone who will lend an ear, since he's a minor you will have do it by the book or it will back fire and bite you in the ass. But 15 teen suicides in a 12 month time frame , just try and make a wild guess how many 'victims' there are that don't take it to the point of no return ,but are victimized just the same.

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I just wanted to toss this into the mix ,,, and comment on this last sentence of your above quoted post.

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I felt I had to prove to some by telling my story with pics that its out there and its bad



Far be for me to put words in other peoples mouths , but, I'm pretty certain those you felt needed to hear and see your daughters story to prove how bulling happens etc.... I'm certain they know and understand without a doubt that it's out there , it happens and it's a serious problem . I'm thinking it's that your daughter was 'friends' with the 15 kids that have killed themselves that they are questioning ..

I'd like to ask a question on that exact topic... With her losing 15 friends to suicide in a short 12 month space, is she getting professional help in dealing with such an intense and certainly traumatizing experience? A kid can have lasting negative reactions to losing one or two friends before reaching adulthood I can't imagine what losing 15 could do to a kids head.
scardycat On May 17, 2014




, Australia
#38New Post! Nov 24, 2012 @ 13:25:47
@white_swan53 Said

Correct me if I'm wrong , but would it be her word with pictures of her injuries, against his word that she had been attacked ? I don't know how it works where you are but the witnesses statements would have been taken by the cops and presented in court by the DA, They wouldn't have brought a bunch of minors in to testify in a assault and batteries case . Since he was doing that to your girl , it's anyones guess how many other kids are dealing with the same s*** from him .
This is from your OP




If this wasn't such a serious topic I wouldn't be raking your words over the coals like this . But , If your not part of the solution then your part of the problem . You say you realize you handled your daughters attacker wrong. Your still alive and kicking and I'm betting he's still alive and being a bully. It maybe be past the time limit (if there is one ) to make him accountable for his actions and see that he's punished by the law, but it's not to late to bring his actions to the notice of other parents and the law enforcement so maybe some one else daughter won't have to be one of his victims.
You can't just start bad mouthing him to anyone who will lend an ear, since he's a minor you will have do it by the book or it will back fire and bite you in the ass. But 15 teen suicides in a 12 month time frame , just try and make a wild guess how many 'victims' there are that don't take it to the point of no return ,but are victimized just the same.



===============================================

I just wanted to toss this into the mix ,,, and comment on this last sentence of your above quoted post.




Far be for me to put words in other peoples mouths , but, I'm pretty certain those you felt needed to hear and see your daughters story to prove how bulling happens etc.... I'm certain they know and understand without a doubt that it's out there , it happens and it's a serious problem . I'm thinking it's that your daughter was 'friends' with the 15 kids that have killed themselves that they are questioning ..



I'd like to ask a question on that exact topic... With her losing 15 friends to suicide in a short 12 month space, is she getting professional help in dealing with such an intense and certainly traumatizing experience? A kid can have lasting negative reactions to losing one or two friends before reaching adulthood I can't imagine what losing 15 could do to a kids head.


Yes the police were told but as far as I know they didnt take any statements from the kids who were there not sure why maybe the parents of the kids who saw wouldnt allow it I dont know or maybe they didnt do there job.
Telling what happened isnt bad mouthing I didnt name his name or the school that this happened so I cant get into trouble for that. If I said names that would be different. Then thats slandering. The police were told but charges werent laid. If they wont lay charges then theres nothing I can do yes its sucks Ive tried to get him charged rang the station many times I tried to push it further but they wont budge
How she has lots of different friends from different schools is that 5 of the high schools work together if one school doesnt have a certain subject this is yr 9 and upwards they travel to other school where the subjects are taught this gives the kids a wider selection of subjects to choose from and a different circle of people they mix with.
Yes shes been seeing a councillor at school if needed but also every 2 weeks privately for about 5 months now.
white_swan53 On March 19, 2020




n/a, New Mexico
#39New Post! Nov 24, 2012 @ 17:37:07
@scardycat Said

Yes the police were told but as far as I know they didnt take any statements from the kids who were there not sure why maybe the parents of the kids who saw wouldnt allow it I dont know or maybe they didnt do there job.
Telling what happened isnt bad mouthing I didnt name his name or the school that this happened so I cant get into trouble for that. If I said names that would be different. Then thats slandering. The police were told but charges werent laid. If they wont lay charges then theres nothing I can do yes its sucks Ive tried to get him charged rang the station many times I tried to push it further but they wont budge
How she has lots of different friends from different schools is that 5 of the high schools work together if one school doesnt have a certain subject this is yr 9 and upwards they travel to other school where the subjects are taught this gives the kids a wider selection of subjects to choose from and a different circle of people they mix with.
Yes shes been seeing a councillor at school if needed but also every 2 weeks privately for about 5 months now.


I didn't mean telling your daughters story here on TFS when I said you wouldn't be able to go around bad mouthing the boy.
I meant that you should go to the cops and to the teachers and ask around about any other kids he's doing in the same way he did to your daughter.

I was wondering how it would work to be able to remove a kid from her school suddenly like you did her. It wouldn't be an option here where I am the closet schools to my place are 30 miles round trip and we have a school bus provided,and the next closest schools are more then 100 miles round trip with no school bus provided .
sTreetAngeL On November 27, 2019
root tedt ree





in a paradox,
#40New Post! Nov 24, 2012 @ 19:54:32
@white_swan53 Said

Correct me if I'm wrong , but would it be her word with pictures of her injuries, against his word that she had been attacked ? I don't know how it works where you are but the witnesses statements would have been taken by the cops and presented in court by the DA, They wouldn't have brought a bunch of minors in to testify in a assault and batteries case . Since he was doing that to your girl , it's anyones guess how many other kids are dealing with the same s*** from him .
This is from your OP



If this wasn't such a serious topic I wouldn't be raking your words over the coals like this . But , If your not part of the solution then your part of the problem . You say you realize you handled your daughters attacker wrong. Your still alive and kicking and I'm betting he's still alive and being a bully. It maybe be past the time limit (if there is one ) to make him accountable for his actions and see that he's punished by the law, but it's not to late to bring his actions to the notice of other parents and the law enforcement so maybe some one else daughter won't have to be one of his victims.
You can't just start bad mouthing him to anyone who will lend an ear, since he's a minor you will have do it by the book or it will back fire and bite you in the ass. But 15 teen suicides in a 12 month time frame , just try and make a wild guess how many 'victims' there are that don't take it to the point of no return ,but are victimized just the same.

===============================================

I just wanted to toss this into the mix ,,, and comment on this last sentence of your above quoted post.




Far be for me to put words in other peoples mouths , but, I'm pretty certain those you felt needed to hear and see your daughters story to prove how bulling happens etc.... I'm certain they know and understand without a doubt that it's out there , it happens and it's a serious problem . I'm thinking it's that your daughter was 'friends' with the 15 kids that have killed themselves that they are questioning ..

I'd like to ask a question on that exact topic... With her losing 15 friends to suicide in a short 12 month space, is she getting professional help in dealing with such an intense and certainly traumatizing experience? A kid can have lasting negative reactions to losing one or two friends before reaching adulthood I can't imagine what losing 15 could do to a kids head.



Meant to click 'agree' on that last kudo but I don't think that's what went off; if you got something weird please disregard.
white_swan53 On March 19, 2020




n/a, New Mexico
#41New Post! Nov 24, 2012 @ 22:05:42
@sTreetAngeL Said

Meant to click 'agree' on that last kudo but I don't think that's what went off; if you got something weird please disregard.



Thank you , I'm glad you mentioned it, I was wondering what you found 'funny 'about any of this .
Consider it disregarded. But I'm keeping the '+1 point ' that came with it .
sTreetAngeL On November 27, 2019
root tedt ree





in a paradox,
#42New Post! Nov 25, 2012 @ 00:14:00
@white_swan53 Said

Thank you , I'm glad you mentioned it, I was wondering what you found 'funny 'about any of this .
Consider it disregarded. But I'm keeping the '+1 point ' that came with it .



Keep the kudo too; just know that 'agree' should have been the message, not 'funny'.
scardycat On May 17, 2014




, Australia
#43New Post! Nov 25, 2012 @ 01:59:36
@white_swan53 Said

I didn't mean telling your daughters story here on TFS when I said you wouldn't be able to go around bad mouthing the boy.
I meant that you should go to the cops and to the teachers and ask around about any other kids he's doing in the same way he did to your daughter.

I was wondering how it would work to be able to remove a kid from her school suddenly like you did her. It wouldn't be an option here where I am the closet schools to my place are 30 miles round trip and we have a school bus provided,and the next closest schools are more then 100 miles round trip with no school bus provided .


From what I know no one else has reported him to the cops yet but have heard his behaviour has improved since this happened. The teachers do know whats going but due to the privacy law they arent allowed to discuss other students with parents.
Because there are other schools in the area yes under special circumstances you can remove your child from that school in the middle of the year on condition both schools agree. You probably cant do that due to the next school been so far away
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