@Nanato3 Said 
A close family member, who I get on with just fine has a couple of habits that is bothering me to no end and I would just like to know if I should ignore it or say something.
Unfortunately their house does not have central air conditioning and all they have is one portable air conditioner. With the heat we've had this summer and with 3 little ones you can imagine how unbearable it has been for them. I like to help out when I can but I just can't afford to get them central air so I did not next best thing and bought them another portable one.
When talking to her yesterday all I got from her when I told her was where she was going to put this unit and how hot it's been there......not one word of thanks. This is not the first time she's done this, it's like it's expected of me and I do get so very annoyed. The same a couple of weeks ago after buying shoes for the children, not a simple thank you from her.
I honestly do not mind one bit buying things for them but all I want in return is a simple "thank you".........is that really asking to much?
The other thing that is really bothering me is when she asks me to pick something up for her, she seldom pays me for it, again I get so annoyed at that and keep saying "never again". She asked me to get something a couple of weeks ago which came to $37, I've asked her a couple of times for it and all I get is "oh that's right, I owe you ..."
I honestly don't expect any payment at all when I choose to buy something but when I'm asked to buy then yes I do expect payment back.
I was bought up to say a simple thank you and I don't think that's too hard to expect back.
Am I being too picky or what? any suggestions other than talking to my son? I don't want to embarrass him
If you are doing something and expect something in return, state it. If you expect a person to pay you back, state it directly. If you expect a thank you, state it. Here is an example of how you ought to behave
You= You
CFM = Close Family Member
You = "phone ringing"
CFM on line = Can you pick up some milk for me?
You = how much do you need?
CFM = 4 gallons
You = That's 15 dollars plus 5 dollars gas.
CFM = ok
You = I'll be over after work to get the money
CFM = ...
You *arriving at CFM's house = You still need the milk?
CFM = yes
You = ok. I need the 20 dollars
CFM *stares blankly*
You = what? I need 20 dollars for the milk
CFM = I don't have it
You = then why are you asking me to pick up milk? You should be asking me to buy milk for you if that is what you need me to do
CFM "stares blankly"
You = Do you need me to BUY milk for you?
CFM *nods*
You = fine. I'll go buy it for you. next time, say what you mean and mean what you say
Jul 20, 2012 @ 16:27:12
strange shoes with holes still count as shoes to get into places.
