Cliques

@astrohamgirl Said

Thank you so much! That means a lot!
Also what you have said is very informative and I have to say I've never really thought about how adults act.

@Mysteria Said

You're welcome. Glad to see you back.

@aneil Said

i think it's something that alot of people look at differently and even change their minds about as they grow older.

for example- when i started high school it took me 2 years to get popular and start getting invited to the "cool" parties.
alot of people

i made a small group of friends who i met in sailing school and the swim team and we were 1 of the many cliques on the cool side of the spectrum-
between the 5 of us, there was always a situation where 4 would make fun of 1- sometimes maybe serious bullying, until he'll push himself to where we can't make fun of him and then the tables would turn and another person would become the 1 that was bullied.

sometimes i hated those guys, and genuinely thought that none liked me either. i thought that i only chilled with them for social status,

but then 1 day i realized that by doing what he did- we pushed ourselves to become like kings not only in our school but in the entire city.

on the outside looking in we must have looked like we were using each other but we're friends to this day!

here's another situation:
at my university, there's a group of girls that are friends. they're all unpopular and most are fat.

they seem like a nice group of friends who care about each other to people on the outside of their group.
for each of their birthday's they have a small party and bring cake (thats how i met them, i was sitting near them and they offered me cake)

they seem to support each other but in reality they drag each other down- because i honestly see thm eating cake at least once a week and none of them ever suggests that they should start dieting.

it does sound kind of odd.
but sometimes the a*****es are really your friends and your friends are really a*****es.

@astrohamgirl Said

Okay first lets take the word "fat" out of the equation and put in overweight instead. Here's my personal opinion on what you are saying here.

I understand where you are coming from, but do you know these girls personally? Do you know their health history? Possibly they are overweight because of genetics? The fact is that you might never know.

I'm sensitive to this topic because my mom is considered overweight. She is a nervous eater because of events that happened in her childhood. Her dad committed suicide when she was 10 and she began to eat because of depression.

Those girls could have hidden demons that they are not sharing with one another. Also, they could just feel better around one another because they all know that they are fighting the same battle. Yes it would be a great idea for them to diet together, but other components in life could interfere with that.

Again this is my personal opinion.