@sTreetAngeL Said
In that case, just let it slowly fizzle out. Your daughter is getting used to him not being around already.
Babies are resilient, and at that age, bounce back quite easily. She will do fine without him in no time...And I honestly do think he is 'using her', sadly, as an excuse to contact you.
The way I see it; He insulted you by leaving you for this other girl. Now he is using her too, and continuing to disrespect you, AND her now as well. She lives with him; but why do you let him do it to you?
I would just tell him to not call anymore. Complete severence will pay off in a short time, you will see. Plus, you are plenty pretty, and will have no trouble at all finding a good guy, who will treat you as you deserve to be treated.
I agree about letting him slowly fizzle out of her life. It is obviously your choice catie but I think that seeing how this guy does nothing but play games that your daughter will do just fine boucning back if he was not in her life.
You are making a choice that is likely going to cause you headaches from now on, and I hate to say this but it needs to be said - someone as irresponsible sounding as he is will very likely NOT be around your daughter thru the duration of her childhood, and it is going to hurt her far more if a few years from now he decides he is tired of playing dada and just doesn't come around anymore.
I'd nip this in the bud now if I were you, rather than waiting when she is a little older, but again this is only a suggsestion. Obviously it is your choice. But i honestly believe you are making this your choice because deep down inside that is your way of hanging on to this guy. I think if you really examined this the reasons for wanting him in your daughter's life might be more centered on how much you miss him than you really think.
You are letting your daughter think of him as dad but is that fair to her? I am not saying that many guys who are not biological fathers can't be great dads, but in this particular circumstance it doesn't sound very healthy for your daughter long term. Is it fair to encourage this with a man who does not prove to be very responsible who might be permanently out of her life in a year, or two years, etc? What about when he gets married one day. Is he going to continue to come see your daughter? Hypothetical example - fast forward five years from now and you allowed her to be attached to him....he gets married and has another child, gets caught up in that, and just doesn't come back around. How do you think that will affect your daughter? it will be much worse than him disappearing now, I can tell you that. You might think he will but the odds of this continuing until she is 18 is very slim and I think by allowing this to continue you stand far more chance of her being hurt later on. She is resilient now - she is so young that if he never came back around again she would do a 100% bounceback from it.
Please just really ask yourself if your motives for keeping him around are more because you miss him then your daughter missing him. She is just a baby.