Declaration of neutrality

passion?

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Balance passion with reason

My grandfather took a stance for what he believed and it forced my mother to marry in a hurry. He took sides against her and it resulted in a 30 year relationship in which my father never paid his bills, cheated constantly on my mother, took money from her without asking and lost his cool with me rather than reason with me. It broke down, resulting in a messy divorce that drove a permenant wedge between my father and I.

All this was caused by the actions of my lawful grandfather. He could´ve taken a neutral stance and left my mother alone, let her lead her own life in england and then, the chances are, she wouldn´t have married the person she did and suffered through so many years of lack of appreciation, empathy and support. I partly experienced that as well.

My father was unsuited to her, for reasons of poor health and social inflexibility on his part. He had asperger syndrome, which I have inherited. I am also suffering from his premature hair loss that will render me completely bald and make me loose my facial hair. It will run soon it course and leave me with no hair at all. Me eyebrows are completely gone. He also had epilepsy, which I have been lucky enough not to have inherited, though.

I declare that based on my reason I am passionately pro-Chaski.

So you have decided its easier to point fingers and place blame elsewhere then to stand up recognize the mistakes of others and decide not make/live their mistakes. Well bully for you !?!

Now, before you go off the wall with insult ,
My mothers father hung around long enough to sire 5 children, then poof disappeared with all the available cash and the family transportation . Leaving a young mother of five young children just days after giving birth with no money ,no car, no food ,the rent due ...
Jump ahead 18 years.
The youngest of those five kids ,at 15 years old , meets a truck driver and lies about her age ants
runs off with him. Two state lines latter he figures he better marry her because 'damned if she ain't pregnant and oh s*** under age '
.Three kids later ,the now 18 year old woman decides 'to hell with this s***' and disappears, leaving a 3 year old son, a 17 month old son and a 6 week daughter on a busy street corner . Daddy of the three was driving a tanker fuel truck and was busy delivering fuel to service stations in another state.
Jump ahead 5 step mothers and 15 years. That six week old daughter finds herself married and pregnant. Wanna know what she does ? I found a counselor and spent 7 of the 9 months learning how not to become the f***ed up disappearing act my mother and my mother's dad was.

As a child you have no control , as an adult you have the choice to become your parents or make the changes needed to live a different way.

The only advise I gave my kids after they had grown up and were making their own way in their world was "go make your own mistakes don't repeat mine"

Thanks for sharing this with us. It was very brave of you to disclose the events of your personal life in such a vivid way. I appreciate your feedback very much.

I do intend to not repeat my grandparents' mistakes indeed. When I have children, I don't intend to get into a row with my son because he won't follow in my footsteps by going into cinema industry. I'll let him decide for himself.

My grandfather got into a ruckus with my uncle because he didn't want to be a doctor like him. This caused my uncle's uncle to come and take him away to Mexico. Now, this should have been the solution, but, due to social bias and a failure to employ a more subtle strategy, my uncle became involved with the daughter of a rich oil company owner while he was married.

Now, here, my uncle had an opportunity, which might or might not have worked, but would have in the end been better than what actually went down.

She was one of his archtecture students, a girl ten years younger than he and very lively, pretty and she had many connections. Here, we could say that he could have introduced her to his wife and let them become friends, rather than have an affair with her. This would have prevented the near tragedy to come...

This woman decided to help decorate her sister's house when she was six months pregnant with my uncle's child. She went up a ladder and fell off, landing on her stomach. Now, had it not been for the ability to save lives of my grandfather, this baby would have perished, but thanks to him, he survived. He needed to be kept in an incubator for three months.

To go on, the wife of my uncle found out about their relationship and told him that if in a year he didn't come back to her, she would leave him.

This is an unpleasant alternative to the friendship between two women that would have saved so much trouble and the possible death of a human being. Think of what they could have done together. My uncle's wife was a psychologist. She and the mistress of my uncle could otherwise could have formed a bond built on mutual trust and advancement.

It was yet again, the lawful nature of my grandfather that put my uncle in this position. Had he respected my uncle's wishes, he might not have gone to Mexico and caused this upset. He still might have gone, but not because the situation at home was unfair... which it was because my grandfather sided against him for a very unjust reason.

Thank you for your kind words , but all I did was share a story about someone else's mistakes .
And when one thinks about it, how much guts does it take to share what one considers to be another's mistake's ?

Mistakes can be valuable if we learn from them. They become our worst enemy if we don't. For me, a neutral stance enables me to be fairer, more open minded, more flexible and certainly more positive.

Upon further reflection, my grandmother did the right thing and the wrong thing by marrying my grandfather. It was the right thing to do because of what they could do together, the the life experiences they could build and living at a high standard. It was, on the other hand, the wrong thing to do, because my grandfather was extremely right wing. He was tradditional to excess and this drove a temporary wedge between him and his son. He was wanting my uncle to become a doctor, like him and my uncle said no, he wanted to do something else in life. This led to big arguments between them which made my grandmother send my uncle away.

This was the right thing to do as well and I wish I could say more in her favor, but then, she became pregnant and her life was put at risk. My grandfather tried to convince her to have an operation that would save her life. She refused it because, as a consequence, her unborn child would die and she wouldn't have it. She died in childbirth and so did the baby.

In other words, my grandmother took a lawful stance and this cost her her life. It broke the home and made my grandfather tighten his grip on my mother. Rather than take a neutral approach, his lawful one was made even more stronger. Also, I almost forgot, he heeded the dying words of my grandmother... to make sure their daughter got married and had a family, above all else.

As a result, I stand more by my decision to declare my neutrality. I don't think anything or anyone can persuade me to reconsider, for any reason whatsoever.

This thread is for those who have no preference, maybe even is indifferent, to anything pertaining to or about Chaski, and red dresses as well.

Neaners!

Neutrality stance is just a way of coping, a decision not to go 'there'.
At times it is a perfect response.
At other times, neutrality (indifference/passivity) can be very annoying.

Some believe if you're not part of the solution and are just 'there' with your head in the sand basically - then you're as much a part of the problem as those who are actively involved.