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white_swan53 On October 07, 2020




n/a, New Mexico
#46New Post! Jun 12, 2016 @ 01:47:56
Do you see what we have done here ? we have done exactly what all of society does when faced with the idea of men as victims of Domestic violence . We change the subject .
Leez On May 07, 2017

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, United Kingdom
#47New Post! Jun 12, 2016 @ 01:56:23
I never had any bad experience of someone breaking my trust at any stage in life. I don't know what's next in future as you can never be 100% wiser and safe.

One of the things I learnt at a very young age - build trust over time, but always give respect to anyone in any situation until proven unworthy of it.

In my past relationship with my late partner, I took the same time to give the trust. I grow on people and not quite driven by the heart or emotions.

I neither believe in love at first sight. I see it more as lust at first sight, as no compatibility is known, the person's character, background and personality.
twilitezone911 On March 25, 2019




Saint Louis, Missouri
#48New Post! Jun 12, 2016 @ 02:00:16
I watch Cold Blood, Crimes, Sins and Secrets, Crimes of Rich and the Famous, The Forensic Detectives, The Killers, Women who Kill and 24 hours to Kill.



i am aware of these shows, i heard of " cold blood "and " the forensic detectives " on a&e. are on the cable networks, that i have. i have these two shows on tv on my cable tv guide few days ago. i try watch other tv shows, i normally can't watch during the tv season on my season.

in summertime, when i am not watching old reruns and not watching my tv shows on my dvd. i try to watch something new during the days. your two shows, you mentioned above. they have reruns during the day. so i can watch.

last summer, i watched for two hours on " bbc, hell's kitchen ". i really enjoyed this reality show, i hardly watch reality tv show normally. ( twilite, that a lie. you are a big fan of " how to pick up your date at the city morgue? " . go ahead, twilite, finish this post now. we need to leave now. you know how i hate going to st. louis's city morgue on saturday nights. i missing not picking up " the fresh ones ". twilite, you know how i hate pick up the day old ones! hurry up, twilite! ) sorry for interruption from twilite.

this restaurants that ramsey goes to inspected in every episode. i am saying this restaurants are so bad, that cockroaches actually committed suicide. even in the cockroaches's wills that doesn't want to have the funerals at these restaurants. that's pretty bad!

ramsey really kick these owners and staff's a** in the restaurants. it is a likeable tv show to watch.
Leez On May 07, 2017

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, United Kingdom
#49New Post! Jun 12, 2016 @ 02:01:36
@white_swan53 Said

Do you see what we have done here ? we have done exactly what all of society does when faced with the idea of men as victims of Domestic violence . We change the subject .



No, it's not deliberate, and as with any thread, it always sways from the main topic when a specific thing is mentioned.
I wouldn't classed it as having a blinkered view about the subject.
Anyway, the same posters have already stated their views, so what more could they possibly come up with ?
I can't think of anything more than what I already stated. Will get back on topic when my brain will be fully charged !
Ratty On March 22, 2021




So Cal, California
#50New Post! Jun 12, 2016 @ 02:07:59
I have a special place in my heart when it comes to domestic abuse. I watched my mom get beat up by a few different men as I was growing up. Been exposed to way way to much drama. When you're 10 yrs old there isn't a whole lot you can do when some grown man is smacking your mom around.

I know that this isn't the thrust of the convo, it's men being abused, but abuse is abuse. Like I posted earlier, I get enraged at men smacking women around. I really take it personally, watching that happened to your mom and you can't do much is debilitating at times. My mother should have been more diligent about them men she let into her life, but that's another thread.

I joke, around a lot, but at the heart of it, I am horrified at men hurting women, or women hurting men for that matter. Violence is violence and no one should be abused, for any f'ing reason.
white_swan53 On October 07, 2020




n/a, New Mexico
#51New Post! Jun 13, 2016 @ 06:52:12
My dad was married several times, he wasn't an abuser, but his second wife was. I remember many times they would be screaming and yelling at each other when she would push him into the wall or smack him hard enough he's go down .Once she shoved though a screen door. A few wives later ,I was telling a cousin about the screen door deal, my dad caught the last of my story. He came unglued, telling me to stop fibbing , asking my cousin what she thought of my wild imagination . He went on and on until I felt like a criminal or something because I had said anything .My cousin finally told him it was okay because she didn't believe me any way. The topic of the abuse or the conversation never came up again between my dad and me . But I learned a valuable lesson about men's ego's that day
Ratty On March 22, 2021




So Cal, California
#52New Post! Jun 13, 2016 @ 07:55:33
@white_swan53 Said

My dad was married several times, he wasn't an abuser, but his second wife was. I remember many times they would be screaming and yelling at each other when she would push him into the wall or smack him hard enough he's go down .Once she shoved though a screen door. A few wives later ,I was telling a cousin about the screen door deal, my dad caught the last of my story. He came unglued, telling me to stop fibbing , asking my cousin what she thought of my wild imagination . He went on and on until I felt like a criminal or something because I had said anything .My cousin finally told him it was okay because she didn't believe me any way. The topic of the abuse or the conversation never came up again between my dad and me . But I learned a valuable lesson about men's ego's that day
yeah a man's ego can be a sad thing actually. Truth be told I can understand where he's coming from. Sad, ,but it is what it is. I wouldn't want to cop to get my a** kicked by woman. Lol men are stupid that way.
shadowen On September 22, 2021




Bunyip Bend, Australia
#53New Post! Jun 13, 2016 @ 09:00:26
@Ratty Said

yeah a man's ego can be a sad thing actually. Truth be told I can understand where he's coming from. Sad, ,but it is what it is. I wouldn't want to cop to get my a** kicked by woman. Lol men are stupid that way.


It's rarely about 'ego'. The reality is that most blokes will still not hit a sheila even in self defence. Unfortunately this just encourages some women to assault such blokes (who could easily win the fight if they chose to).
white_swan53 On October 07, 2020




n/a, New Mexico
#54New Post! Jun 13, 2016 @ 09:01:28
@Ratty Said

yeah a man's ego can be a sad thing actually. Truth be told I can understand where he's coming from. Sad, ,but it is what it is. I wouldn't want to cop to get my a** kicked by woman. Lol men are stupid that way.



This is true , and I have a feeling the no matter how advanced civilization becomes it won't ever change.
The sad thing about that second marriage is that dad stayed in it until she ran us off.
Ratty On March 22, 2021




So Cal, California
#55New Post! Jun 13, 2016 @ 09:05:54
@shadowen Said

It's rarely about 'ego'. The reality is that most blokes will still not hit a sheila even in self defence. Unfortunately this just encourages some women to assault such blokes (who could easily win the fight if they chose to).

My post was more about men that are truly abused by women. Not men that can whoop a woman's a** but chooses not too. Most men can whoop a woman in a fist fight I wasn't talking about them.
white_swan53 On October 07, 2020




n/a, New Mexico
#56New Post! Jun 13, 2016 @ 09:13:17
@shadowen Said

It's rarely about 'ego'. The reality is that most blokes will still not hit a sheila even in self defence. Unfortunately this just encourages some women to assault such blokes (who could easily win the fight if they chose to).



It may not have been about dad's ego that he stayed in the marriage ,but it definitely was about his ego when a few years later he called me a liar about him being an abused spouse .
It was strange because one of dad's' claims to fame' was he could out drink most anyone stupid enough to challenge him and even though he wasn't a big man in size he wouldn't back down from any man even when he was twice dad's size and had whipped more then a few who were twice his size but he never fought back when that wife would start the her s*** . Not once did he ever start their fights and he never hit her back . She was a bat s*** crazy b****. She liked giving others pain.
shadowen On September 22, 2021




Bunyip Bend, Australia
#57New Post! Jun 13, 2016 @ 09:14:08
What follows is just one small example of how completely the feminist lobby have obtained a monopoly on IPV. Their all pervading narrative that insists that only women can be victims, and that only men can be offenders is one reason why so many men dont report IPV. It's also one reason why many men wont fight back even when being assaulted...

"I have been considerably disempowered after writing about male disempowerment. Wading into the treacherous, virulent, oestrogen laden waters of modern feminism I have learnt that the gender wars are seen by many as a zero sum game, much like poker or derivatives trading.

After writing in the Australian last month about the limited discussion of male disempowerment in the context of domestic violence, I was treated to an orgy of abuse, threats and complete mis-representation. The attacks were distributed in the convergent media – online, mobile and television.

I was labelled a misogynist and a blamer of women. Threatening messages were left at my practice. Nurses at my psychiatric hospital in western Sydney took me aside to apply their counselling skills to the public assaults on my character. ‘You’ve really pissed some people off, doc. Are you OK?’ This encounter occurred while actual patients were threatening self harm on the ward.

Fairfax polemicist Clementine Ford, described by Andrew Bolt as “some feminist with bared tattoos,” criticised my views for using the sneakiest, most privileged tool of the patriarchy, a “veneer of reason.” She also illustrated the ridiculousness of modern feminism being criticised as man hating, by writing “I don’t have time for men’s woe-betide-me feelings.”

Two nights after my column was published, Labor politician Tim Watts spoke in federal Parliament calling for me to resign from my position with the White Ribbon organisation. I watched online bemused by it all. An emergency teleconference was held with the administrators of White Ribbon. They asked for a clarifying statement, only to publish a press release the following day outlining how the CEO Libby Davies was shocked and that I was sorry for my views. I wasn’t sorry for my views, only that they were so horribly misrepresented.

A British men’s group published a story titled “Global feminism goes into meltdown as male supporter reveals he has a mind of his own.” A parallel, splinter group also called White Ribbon focused on violence against BOTH sexes, begun by the global founder of women’s shelters Erin Pizzey, wrote an open letter of support on their website.

Male victims of violence emailed me their stories of abuse and I was invited to speak at an upcoming conference in Toronto about modern masculinity. Several local academics wrote to me, on strict conditions of anonymity, to tell me about how difficult it was to speak openly and scientifically about this issue in their departments.

Fellow psychiatrist and Marxist writer, Dr Tad Tietze, told me that I was seen by sections of the Left as an “Uncle Tom,” a term used for race traitors. This struck a chord because my wife and family joked that my growing inability to tolerate chilli laden food was a sign I was becoming a coconut: dark on the outside, white within. I was condemned to befriend other such traitors of my ilk, such as self-hating Jews, house Negroes and bananas – those outwardly Chinese in appearance but eager to adopt white, middle class ways to ease their desire for social climbing.

The White Ribbon site continued to be mobbed by posts demanding my resignation. Despite the group being about men, the hundreds of angry posts were entirely from women. The following day, White Ribbon issued a statement that the calls for my resignation were so persistent that I had been asked to step down. In a final twist in keeping with the totalitarian character of the entire episode, in order to be reinstated, I would have to undergo a re-commitment program to make sure my views were in keeping with the movement. I packed my ribbon away in a basement drawer and sheepishly returned to my practice, no longer an ambassador for the cause, and resumed writing prescriptions for psychoactive drugs."
- Dr. Ahmed
shadowen On September 22, 2021




Bunyip Bend, Australia
#58New Post! Jun 13, 2016 @ 09:15:51
@Ratty Said

My post was more about men that are truly abused by women. Not men that can whoop a woman's a** but chooses not too. Most men can whoop a woman in a fist fight I wasn't talking about them.


Blokes who could easily smash a woman in a fight but dont fight back when assaulted are still being truly abused.
shadowen On September 22, 2021




Bunyip Bend, Australia
#59New Post! Jun 13, 2016 @ 09:18:45
@white_swan53 Said

...he never fought back when that wife would start the her s*** . Not once did he ever start their fights and he never hit her back . She was a bat s*** crazy b****. She liked giving others pain.


That is the case far more often than not. If he doesnt fight back he is almost ridiculed for being hurt by a woman. If he does fight back he is likely to be arrested for assault and seen as a coward for hitting a sheila.
shadowen On September 22, 2021




Bunyip Bend, Australia
#60New Post! Jun 13, 2016 @ 09:21:54
Over the past few decades, a growing number of studies have been released that support the contention that females perpetrate violence at rates equal, or similar, to males (for reviews, see Dutton & Nicholls, in press; Fiebert, 2004; Straus, 1999). Findings are relatively consistent across dating, cohabitating, and marital relationships in community samples; though, there is some evidence to suggest young respondents (under 30 years) in dating relationships evidence higher rates of aggression, particularly by women (Follingstad, Wright, Lloyd, & Sebastian, 1991; Sommer, Barnes, & Murray, 1992; Sorenson, Upschurch, & Shen, 1996).
- D Dutton
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