I need advice badly. I am only 20 so I am not dying here but I am feeling down about
myself. I know that I have forever to have a relationship and all but here's the bad stuff...
The most serious boyfriend I have ever had was in the 6th grade and it lasted a month. I
haven't had any "actual" relationships since and though I love being free and have enjoyed
being single I have been feeling so lonely and miserable for a couple years now. I am
honestly not trying to sound like I'm bragging but I am a decently attractive female. I am
tall, skinny, I have boobs, a nice butt, a pretty and "girl next door" face, long brown hair,
and guys tell me I'm hot (even though I can't see it). I'm a pretty cool chick too. I am very
normal, funny, chill, I'm fun to be with, I'm always in a good mood, I don't pms, I'm not
jealous or psycho or controlling, a lot of guys consider me to be "one of the guys" because
I'm relaxed and almost tom-boyish. So please tell me why I CANNOT find a guy. I do not
act flimsy or dumb or easy or girly or too guyish or flirty. Guys always look at me in one
way and one way only: to get down my pants. No matter how non-flirty I try to be, guys
only care about me because they like my body or how I look. I honestly have never
experienced a guy who liked me otherwise. Never. I always feel like a piece of trash
because I am only the girl who guys want to bring home for a one-night stand. Never the
girl they want to date or have as a girlfriend. I'm even a virgin. Mostly because of the fact
that I've never had a guy interested in me for real so I feel like I'll never have sex because
then I'd just be giving it up to some a*****e. I am just very sick of being lonely and only
being a booty call girl. I am also just completely confused as to why I am treated this way
when I honestly feel like I am a girl that most guys would die to be with. I hope I didn't
sound like I was bragging because I wasn't, I am just very annoyed and need anyones
advice. Thanks a lot!
Sounds to me like you've already found "alot" of guys, - but just are maybe too blind to see it..
You say they only want you for one thing. Do you know this for a fact?
Did they actually come out and tell you this? Or demonstrate this in "actual actions"?
You said yourself you are comfortable around them, and are easily able to be yourself "like one of the guys", (and this is an attractive quality ), they in turn may feel the same way", but with mixed messages from you..as they sense, in one way your interest, then feel rejected somehow but can't figure out why..so they don't even try..
Your body "language" may be saying alot more than you even realize..
Why don't you stop "assumming" they want you "only" for your body, and give them a chance..a first date at least for god's sake..
But remember, at the same time, it's only "natural" that they will be attracted to your body (as you know damm well you are to theirs, it's only natural)..
..Give something a chance to "begin", before giving it an "end".
(I was a dummy like you at one time, I know what I'm talking about
).. Good luck hon.