It Burns In, California
Joined: Aug 2010
|I was pretty satisfied that I didn't really need to release any rage so far this summer on here about anyone since I'm finally out of high school, but it turns out one girl I know is going to the same college as me.|
She's a sweet girl who doesn't mean any bad so I REALLY hate to say this, but she's very slow, and right now I really lost my patience with her. I was already in an extremely bad mood when she popped up on my Facebook chat and asks me when we start school (I understand she didn't know what was going on with me, but it was still horrible timing). She heard from someone that school starts in early August. However, colleges generally begin late in September. On top of that, there is orientation all throughout August and the beginning of September. You sign up for your classes at orientation, so how in the hell do you expect school to start that early?! I explain this to her, and her response was, "Sooo...you're saying we do start in August?"
WOMAN, I CLEARLY explained that first of all, I'm not even sure what the exact date we start is. Secondly, there is orientation throughout August! Oh my goodness. I understand it requires patience to talk to her, but this really just pissed me off. I know I probably sound like a complete b**** right now, but I've been going through a lot lately and I really didn't need that.
|This will provide you with an opportunity to utilize your patience, tolerance, understanding, and compassion towards this girl. An opportunity to become more spiritually advanced.|
root tedt ree
|J.R. is right...But if your mood is such where things are really getting to you that bad, rather than take it out on her - or yourself for that matter by putting up with something you can't quite deal with at the moment...I find it best to just level with the person. Tell them you're happy to explain further, but a bit later on, as you are having a really bad day at the moment.|
I find most people appreciate the honesty. - And what are they going to do, push anyway? If they did after that they'd deserve to have you snap and b**** at them; so it's a win-win.
|I get annoyed with the stupidity of some people all the time |
This will provide you with an opportunity to utilize your patience, tolerance, understanding, and compassion towards this girl. An opportunity to become more spiritually advanced.
I'm going to become so spiritually advanced I'll be the next Buddah by the end of college if I'm around her a lot It's not just this incidence that ticked me off with her (there have been countless), but it's the most recent.
|Is she unable to read? I would imagine this stuff is all in your orientation information.|
Well the good thing is, you'll be at college. You can lose her in the crowd and let her find others will hold her hand through life.
The Queen of Random Administrator
|Tell her I (as in me Tiger not you) start Aug 21. But I had to register and pay by the end of June, and if she missed that deadline she is screwed. Then laugh maniacally and if she asks who I am tell her if you give out more details you have to kill her, it is a need to know basis.|
Seriously though, the proper answer would be something like, "check you orientation paper work, if you didn't get that, call the school and speak to someone for new admissions." You can be nice about it, but doing it for her will not do her any favors. If there is special considerations in her or your admission packets you could be telling her incorrect information. Some schools divide up orientation based on criteria of the student (programs, grades or test scores, AP credit) that may not be obvious to the student. It is so that they can plan out what is the relevant info for each group. There is so much to cover during orientation that it is easy to ht information overload.
If she really does need a lot of extra help, like you imply. Hooking her up with the people the school that do that would be the best thing for her. It is their job to help, and most can follow up to help her succeed. Some of them are really great, and you won't have to feel frustrated. The sooner that she gets used to speaking up and advocating for herself the better college will go for her.
College is great, but people have to start taking responsibility for themselves and their time or it will be hard. There is nothing wrong going to the appropriate services on campus directly, that is why they are there to help students succeed.