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| Yesterday an old friend came back into my life. We somehow lost contact,and he recently found me on a website and found my email addy again and re-added me to msn. We havent spoke in about a year. He has a gf now, been with her 10 months,says he might propose to her. His life has changed alot, whereas mine hasent. The only major diff is becky. He said he missed me alot, and that he wishes i was his, I asked how he can think that if he loves his gf and he said "god knows!". Im glad we're talking again,but his comment made me think. Has any1 been in love and wished they were with someone else? I think I have,but Im not sure. I put it down to stress and my feelings being mixed up and all over the place. Is it possible to love 2 people? Ive been thinkin alot about this. I dont think I know what love should "be". | |
treebee
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163312 points | I think maybe inadvertantly he is messing with your head a bit there. Why would he say that if he is so in love? Seems strange to me 
Maybe ask him what the hell he means  |
hallucinogenic_lipstick
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16932 points | | Yeah i agree with treebee on this one...send the git a virus for daring to play mind games. |
WildChild
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105111 points | Ok this can get confusing, I think I have expressed my feelings on this particular situation on here before, let me see if I can put it into words once again.
I think it is entirely possible to love two people or even more at one, maybe even on a romantic level but I am not sure that you can be "in love " with two people at the same time. Years ago I was married to a different man I loved him very much I was in love with him at least that's they way I felt at the time, I went through months of him cheating, beating and just downright dogging on me and I turned my affections to someone else during our split up, my ex. tried and tried to get me to come back, Although I loved him very much I could no longer put myself through the pain and anguish of what loving him caused me. Guy number two on the other hand , I learned to love him during all the ups and downs with my ex but I never really fell in love with him. I know now it was because of the love I had for my ex, I could'nt open myself up enough to love that big while I still had the love for my ex in my heart.
I'm not sure this makes sense so anyone but me but I tried. I have a great friend who is married, he has been for almost 20 years , he loves his wife , if for no other reason than the fact that she has given him three wonderful kids, but he is not in love with her at all. He always thought he was but he realized that he'd fallen in love with someone else. No he's not seeing this other person except for at work (not to my knowledge anyway.) and he won't leave his wife for her because he says it's just not right. I can't imagine how he deals with this on a daily basis but he does. 
Sometimes we think we are really in love and then when the thrillof the chase is over so are the feelings so be careful with this . |
nevermindme2000
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905 points | hallucinogenic_lipstick said:
Yeah i agree with treebee on this one...send the git a virus for daring to play mind games.
hehehe hmmmmm.....*goes off to plan...* |
nevermindme2000
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905 points | wildchild said: Ok this can get confusing, I think I have expressed my feelings on this particular situation on here before, let me see if I can put it into words once again.
I think it is entirely possible to love two people or even more at one, maybe even on a romantic level but I am not sure that you can be "in love " with two people at the same time. Years ago I was married to a different man I loved him very much I was in love with him at least that's they way I felt at the time, I went through months of him cheating, beating and just downright dogging on me and I turned my affections to someone else during our split up, my ex. tried and tried to get me to come back, Although I loved him very much I could no longer put myself through the pain and anguish of what loving him caused me. Guy number two on the other hand , I learned to love him during all the ups and downs with my ex but I never really fell in love with him. I know now it was because of the love I had for my ex, I could'nt open myself up enough to love that big while I still had the love for my ex in my heart.
I'm not sure this makes sense so anyone but me but I tried. I have a great friend who is married, he has been for almost 20 years , he loves his wife , if for no other reason than the fact that she has given him three wonderful kids, but he is not in love with her at all. He always thought he was but he realized that he'd fallen in love with someone else. No he's not seeing this other person except for at work (not to my knowledge anyway.) and he won't leave his wife for her because he says it's just not right. I can't imagine how he deals with this on a daily basis but he does.
Sometimes we think we are really in love and then when the thrillof the chase is over so are the feelings so be careful with this .
i understand that. I think im in the same situation as ur friend,misus 3 kids,I only have one. Im fallin for my best friend,big time. Ive tried to stop it,but well how can you do that? I think im emotionally f**ked when it comes to love and stuff. I've put it down to mixed feelings. I just dont know anymore. Im sick of thinking. |
dreamdestined
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6527 points | | I don't know what I'd say on this matter but would assume he is confused. |
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