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Meister
1168 points
25/F/North Fort Myers,
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im having a threesome tonight. me my boyfriend and a girl friend of ours. ive never been with a girl before. and not really sure what to do. im not even sure if im comfortable with it, completely. but it is a major fantasy of my boyfriends. and my friend goes both ways, so she is willing to do it. does anyone have any advice? | |
peanut
Ogler
20149 points | melissarae said:
im just worried that things will be awkward between us or things could be really great and everyone will want to do it again. who knows? but i dont want things to end up awkward, seeing as i am hopefully going to be getting a place with her soon.
You should be really careful then. Not only are you doing this with your boyfriend (whom to me sounds like he's using you-but I don't know him), but with your possible roomie? In my opinion it's too early, and you don't sound 100% ready. You HAVE to be 100% ready. Otherwise it's going to cause problems. Be careful, and make sure he hasn't hidden a camera somewhere. |
melissarae
Meister
1168 points | peanut said:
You should be really careful then. Not only are you doing this with your boyfriend (whom to me sounds like he's using you-but I don't know him), but with your possible roomie? In my opinion it's too early, and you don't sound 100% ready. You HAVE to be 100% ready. Otherwise it's going to cause problems. Be careful, and make sure he hasn't hidden a camera somewhere.
there is definitely no hidden camera. my friend that were doing it with is house sitting for her boss and were doing it there. |
unoaman
Über-Meister
2094 points | melissarae said:
i do love him, and he said he likes me alot. whatever that means.
"Likes you a lot? Hell I like you a lot too, but a twosome will work fine for me...
Likes me a lot...........Geesus! |
accessdenied
Mega Über-Meister
3470 points | To do something when you're not 100% comfortable with it, can lead to heartache. To do something because of someone whom you love says it's their fantasy, is even more hurtful. It this guy cares about you, he wouldn't ask you to do something that you are uncomfortable about doing. And if you agreed and were still unsure, he'd make SURE you were 100% okay with it, before doing anything.
I'd agree with most people on here and say I'm scared for you. I'd also have to say this guy IS bad news, and I don't see how he can totally respect you, and your body, when he isn't taking the time to get to know what you want. 
On one final note. Being turned on and curious by porn, and actually performing what you see in your head is two COMPLETELY different things. I can be turned on by one thing, but know in my heart I'm not okay with it. Such as you about your bf having sex with this girl, or you going down on this girl. And having sex for two weeks and then bringing someone else into the picture, that's going fast.
When you talk to someone for a year, you get to know them yes. But when you bring it to the sexual intercourse level, feelings, change, and you learn about each other in a way you couldn't before. If you're only starting out on the journey of discovery between this guy and yourself, and you are already ready to bring someone else into the relationship, well I think you should be looking at your relationship long and serious. Yes for some couples having an open relationship, or allowing someone else into their bedroom activities, help deeped their relationship. Other's it distorys it, and makes it only about sex.
Keep safe, be smart, And let you're heart guide you.
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el_diablo
Über-Minister
16547 points | | Just be careful and make sure you think this through. There's no reason to rush into it. You can always do it another time. |
newwealth
Meister
1255 points | jonnythan said:
This guy is bad news.
johnny's right .. this guy is bad news .. and you are headed for heartbreak or worse. |
eemboz
Über-General
513 points | ".. this guy is bad news .."
You should try first!  |
jonnythan
Pickle
104395 points | eemboz said: ".. this guy is bad news .."
You should try first!
There's nothing inherently wrong with threesomes, despite the fact that they are fraught with relationship-destroying power. The problem is that this guy has been sleeping with this girl for only two weeks and he's already bringing other chicks into the bedroom.
That does not bode well at all for the future of this relationship or the character of said guy. |
pink23
Commander
98 points | Dont have a threesome if you feel like your not ready. And it may be his fantasy but it's seriously up to you. My boyfriend wants me to have a threesome but I dunno if im oky with it. I really dont wanna see my man screwing another chick just the thought of it makes my stomach turn. I dunno if I would wanna go through with palying around with a chick . Do what you wanna do hell you dont even have to do it. |
justinswife
Points Whore
844 points | hmm, well i have a story to tell, one of my boyfriend before always told me things like he wanted me to have sex with other guys and to cheat on him, becuase it would turn him on, before we got sexual he wanted to have a triangle, like bring another girl intou our relationship, he always told me he wanted me to be very extreamly sexual with other people, and if i said i wasnt comfertable, he would throw a fit, and this was all over the phone, i ended up doing whatever he told me to, i basically worshiped him, if he told me to do something, if i wanted to or not, i would have to do it, becuase i didnt want to loose him, and this sound so silly, but i was in love with him, and he wasnt always like this, there were old memories that held me back from leaving him, well we never got a three sum in the end, never got a love triangle because he saw it my way and finially understood.
so sweetie, be careful, its your feelings that matter, why wouldnt he be satisfied with haveing you all to himself?
does he really need another girl to give him the same thing you give him? |
xohxthexironyx
Meister
1361 points | | Don't do it if you're not comfortable. And a note:: Sometimes you get feelings of resentment afterwards. I know I'd NEVER let another woman touch my man. |
topgun70009
Apprentice
40 points | treebee said:
Do you think he loves you?
Do you love him?
treebee why does it matter? if hes having sex with two girls, he at least doesnt love one.
melissarae how do you love a guy after two weeks? |
sweetrnsugar77
Ogler
26853 points | If you dont want him to have sex with her just tell him. If you get turned on by girl on girl then try it but tell him he can watch the girls or be with you.
HOWEVER...after reading that you are going to be trying to live with her....UM NO. I think its a bad idea. First if it goes bad you have 1 less roomate and second if it goes ok and he comes over to your place he is ALWAYS going to be in a place of tempation to be with her. You will NOT be able to trust them alone. |
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